I've scheduled dinner with 2 friends (one tomorrow, one next Friday) in between juggling D16 as Mr. Wonderful is heading to the Bay Area on Friday and coming home Sunday night and then heading to LA next Tuesday through Thursday. I find the self care takes a back seat when I'm Parent On. But I'm trying.
And then D16 and I are heading to my former boss' Superbowl party on Sunday. I'm the only straight person there. Good food and good company, and I hope the outcome is a happy one.
Gineen, where does your supervisor live? And what is the parent company? Since D16 has been moderately stable medically speaking, I don't meet as many nurses anymore. LOL. That sounds awfully pathetic.
I do want to share the happier news too. My D19 is pretty much holding down the fort in positive news lately. She's turned in her application to study in Australia next spring, and has the interviews in a couple of weeks. The head of her chemical engineering department told her that unless something goes horribly wrong in the interview, she's pretty much a go to do it. My family down under is going to be thrilled to have her close for a few months.
Then to add to her happy demeanor, she sent me and her dad a text early yesterday morning to check our e-mail. Her volleyball coach accepted the coaching position for the AVCA All American 1st team in Holland in June, which happens to be his native country. She wasn't nominated as an All American back in December (which is one of her goals), but the AVCA officially invited her to be part of the team playing through Holland. It's kind of expensive, but these kinds of opportunities look good on the resume, and they don't come along very often. If at all. Her dad and I decided to chat more about it later in the week. Which happened to occur last night...
...After my next Friday dinner date called (we both know her from club volleyball). Said friend is going through a nasty divorce and the XH is so hell bent on revenge that he's opted to screw the kids. Their D19 had to drop out of her college of choice (where she was a starting volleyball player) to go to the community college until she figures out how to go to college on her own. She's a great kid, smart, pretty and it svcks that her dad is such a prick.
So after she and I hung up, I called him. He answered and I said, "Thank you." He said, "For what?" I answered, "For being a great dad, easy to work with, and for doing the right things for our kids." He chuckled and said, "Well, thank YOU! Thank you for being easy to work with and keeping the end in mind." I wound up telling him about our friend's daughter and he was genuinely upset for her. We hung up, and 5 minutes later, D19 and I got a group text from him.
"I looked at my savings, and I can cover the $3600 by myself so mom is not impacted. I would really like you to do this if you can swing it. Opportunities to play overseas with a bunch of All Americans is a once in a lifetime thing. We should do this!"
Needless to say, she called me a few minutes later while doing the happy dance. If it's not me doing it, I'm sure as heck glad she's the one...
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
That is awesome about the good things springing up for your daughter! Also great that your ex is able to help her. You know I think you guys are lucky that you can work together so well. Afterall you had these girls together they didnt just miraculously appear! Lol
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Good food and good company, and I hope the outcome is a happy one.