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"if you can figure out how not to cry when being criticized or when your life is rewritten as nasty and negative I sure would like the secret.."

By detaching.

3-Your sweet little man is so thoughtful. Makes me smile

FWIW, I don't see crying (in circumstances like this) as weak. It takes courage to share upsetting feelings like that, especially with someone who is careless with them. I don't think you were weak at all, 3.

And your S5. What a sweetie. And shows what a great Mom he has.

i agree with M.

People who see crying as weak tend to be the same people who blame you for crying instead of owning up to the fact that they hurt your feelings.

3 I admire your strength and I hope you have a good trip

Thanks for all the support everyone. I made it out on my flight and had a great trip. God was definitely looking out for me because I was the only person in my firm that did not have their flight canceled or delayed. This was only the second time I had flown alone. I got excited when I saw that Planes and Cars 2 were playing on the flight and then realized that the boys were not with me. Guess I am always a mommy first. I got a great night sleep and woke up feeling like a completely different person.

The last time I was on this same trip in Vegas I hated it because there was a bunch of down time when I was alone. This time I love it. I got up, headed down to the gym for a great workout. I am going go grab some starbucks , explore the hotel and then get ready for my conference. I was walking through the hotel and thought about how fun it would be to head out here with some friends on a kids free weekend. I thought to myself "who is this girl. I really am different than the person I have been for 33 years."

I really am letting go of the random perceptions I made up and just living. I WANT to see the world and everything it has to offers even if it pushes me out of my comfort zone.

So maybe my M will not end the way I hope but my life will be richer. Maybe that is why God has chosen for me to take this journey. And I know that God will be with me as I walk it.

Off to explore!!

I am so glad to hear things went well. I am one of those people that believes everything happens for a reason.

Ironic that your flight was not delayed/cancelled? I think not. This trip is for you.

When you look at others' sitch's you can really see why DB works. When I read posts like yours today, I think, "Wow, she's really got her life put together!" Being confident and happy really is attractive. Keep it up, 3!!

This is wonderful.

As I was treading the early days of this adventure, I would have a really down time followed by an awakening and a overwhelming sense of "I can do this."

Peeling the onion.

After a while those down times don't bother you so much because you finally get that they don't last forever, just another part of the rhythm of life.

3, please remember that you said this, and how you felt when you said this, whenever you start to feel down.

Glad you are having fun and enjoying your free time. You so deserve it.

How's it going, 3? I hope you are having an awesome time on your trip and forgot all about your sitch and this board.