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Hang in there!!!!

Finally....

I said all or nothing, he said that is not what we agreed upon initially and that he needs a couple of days to think about it.

I said in does not mean you can never be out, it just means trying instead of floating along.

But I also said I understood if what I was asking was out of his reach to give.

I swear to god that man has never made a decision in his life without it being made for him. I'm sure he has, but it doesn't look like it from my end

Geez.... I was over here holding my breathe and looking for our old popcorn buckets! I hope you know I have to have a drink this evening now! (fanning myself before I faint)

Ok. So a few days it is. Strong, stood your ground, threw the cake in the trash.

You'll be ok either way!

Done. He said he can't give more right now.

I said that I need someone who will value me and be in with the risk of failure and loss. It was what I did for him.

If he ever wanted to give it a shot then call.

I ended it simply with I love you.

No more cake, no more friends....

Let him figure out what he has lost. Whether it is immeasurable or negligible.

(((((BIGHug))))). Take really gentle, super focused care of you now. It is what it is... Ruby's time!!!

You did the hardest, most loving thing there is to do, for him, for yourself.

That is strength.

Ruby, I know how terribly hard that was for you. I also know it was exactly what you needed to do. I have known that for quite some time.

It is in letting go that we show the ultimate act of love.

You handled that with strength, dignity and courage. Good on you, my friend.

Thanks all. UR. I've known it for sometime too but just haven't been ready until now. It is a journey

Now I've just got to get octopus H to actually go lol

So he calls. Get out the popcorn people. To be continued

I’m ready with some popcorn and wine.