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I think W texts me when not with OM. I'm done with that mess. If it's about her mom or my grandmother it's one thing. But this seems to be cake eating. I've been trying to Fo things right. Idk.

Mil was released from the hospital lastnite and has a doctor appointment today and Thursday. No news yet. Nothing else from W. I haven't text but feel I should with thus matter.

Heard from family friend.
She said W is over the marriage.
She doesn't think there is a chance.

Sorry you had to hear this!

This might be your Ws position right now - as in NOW! Do not put anything else into this. Minds change all the time!

Work you!

About communication: Start googling validating. I do not know a good book about this. Maybe Wonka can help out - she is way deeper into these matters.

Good to hear that MIL is released. If you decide to text then make it light!

We text a bit. Light.
I'm glad she is doing better.
Nothing else from W

I feel panicked, and lost again after family friend said this.

I know it hearsay but not good. This family friend is close to W and MIL and lives with them.

So I can give up, which I don't want to, or trey to talk to W at some point.

Nothing is moving towards divorce that I know of. She has not mentioned it in almost a month.

As far as I know no ID, driver's license, filing, nothing but affair.

So Wth? I don't know.
Maybe let go. I suppose.

I would say that this is more than hearsay….I believe this is how your W feels at the moment

Giving up is totally YOUR call – why would you give up if you don't want to?
What do YOU want to talk to her about?

Lots of WAWs spend a year or more getting the paperwork done so do not put anything into this!

I don't think talking would go anywhere but maybe for closure. Idk. Feel like if we saw each other I would know more. See the love or not in her eyes. Believe that's why she doesn't want a face to face. Being separated for longer would probably hurt us more. I'm not ready to give up, I can't just yet.

The separation can do damage or help us. That's up to her. The affair is damaging but I believe we could work through it. Again, her decision.

I know our old marriage is over. Need to start a new one. If she's done why still contact me? Confusing.

Burning Heart,

I'm feeling like you in that I would like to see him and see his eyes when he brings up and talks about our R. He always does it over the phone. He calls to check up on our D and then shifts the convo to our R. DR, the members, and even my IC says to validate and listen when they talk and bring it up...so I do. But then he saying all the right things (I love you, I messed up, I can't believe I let it get this far, etc.) but then finishes by saying I still want a divorce. I feel like he's having his cake and eating it too (toying with me). I agree, if you're done then why the games? It's not fair that they give us false hope. I'm holding on for now because my sitch is brand new and it's way too early for me to give up. Hold on as long as you are able, because I believe it isn't over until both parties says it's over.