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Good for you pal. Keep her thinking positive. It will be a long haul, so patience is a virtue.

Just a little depressed this morning but I know I have to snap out of it. What confuses me is that the whole letting go thing. I compromised with w at lunch with how to handle the divorce but to me it's still a form of giving up and not being able to tell her how much this hurts. She knows I don't want this but it's that feeling inside. I guess it's not knowing the future and having a future with her because of our son and how to handle it.

Saw w on the road today near her office. She was at stop light and I waved as I went by. Hey, got a wave back!! Maybe I should wave to her at home because its like I don't even exist in the room with her. Just venting.

This morning before leaving for work I told w that we have some salt and sand mix left that I could go by her office and spread it on the steps and parking lot because of the ice and snow. She said that's ok. I can take it with me. Told her that it would be messy for her, I don't mind. She comes back saying , in not asking u to do that and go out if ur way unless ur going by there. I told her that I was driving by there to another stop for work. So she was fine with it and told me she really appreciated it.

So after getting an email from w on the separation agreement and getting a little ticked off about her wanting 10k extra from me because she isn't taking any furniture. She said she wants to leave that stuff there so it's not to harsh on our son. HARSH, she thinks that's going to be harsh. Furniture!! I changed her name on my phone to "sons mother". Got that off my chest. Now I have to get ready and fight her on the extra money. I'm also going to tell her to take whatever is in the house from OM with her ( table base , which broke and she had him fix it. Found his name on the paper when she brought it home. )

Just got emailed separation agreement and have to set appointment with my attorney to go over it. Another kick in the mid section. Of course it has to come in Friday. Just put me in a great mood and I have s this weekend. I know it's reality but I still can't believe that we are at this point. Anyone been at this point?

Yeah, got served the D petition a few days ago and received the D papers recently as well. Sat down with W two nights ago to review the D papers. We're in agreement and D is full speed ahead. I thought I would be upset when the D papers were finally in front of me, but it's brought a sense of relief rather than pain. I'm just glad I finally know what she wants and how much it will cost me. It won't be hanging over my head anymore.

I'm sorry to hear you're hurting over this, but as Maritimer recently reminded me, D (or in your case, S) isn't the end of things. You have a bright and meaningful future ahead of you. Your W may be part of that or maybe not, but regardless you will emerge from this better, stronger and happier

AS - I would never cheer on a D, but man, you're worth so much more. I'm excited to see what life holds for you!

Sorry to hijack, kenva, but AS is at that paper-signing point, and I can't be happier for him. Believe me, it was the best thing that ever happened to me being away from XW1, so there IS life after D!

Thanks JonF. Let me ask u. Was ur wife in an affair?
I am also in a dilemma about the marital home. I am trying to refinance it only because I wanted to have the house our s would call home. He knows it as his home also. If I move out, I don't want him to see me as the one who abandoned the home. But financially it will hurt me for a while. I can move in a new home w 1/2 the mortgage and just as nice as our home now. Also I wanted to be at the home that was registered with his school. Anyone else here have any input?