Wow, you've been going through this for a very long time. My hugs go out to you!
Its hard to keep talking to friends and family because after so long its like they just want to all say "Ok, we've heard enough now move on already" It can be frustrating at times.
Me: 31 H: 32 Married 10 years, together 11 No kids H moved out to an apt 8-3-13
Experience: That most brutal of teachers. But you learn, my God, do you learn. ~C.S. Lewis
Hey Lefty, I have slowed up my posting also as time has gone on. Only when I really need to vent or am seeking others thoughts I have said much anymore. Like you so much of it seems to be the same old same old. Since moving and new job I find myself fairly busy for a change and I like it.
I have made a slow but steady upward climb in a battle for myself. I think my biggest leap forward recently has been to understand the person I was/currently married to is NO LONGER the same person. I DO NOT like the person she has become. Like most, as a kid I was always afraid of monsters. Now that I am all growed up, they dont scare me I just dont like being around them.....
I can only speak for myself... I had hit a point in my sitch where it seemed to come to grinding stop. I, too, got weary of discussing the D with people. Rehashing it all was distracting me from my journey.
I got a drive by text the other day from my STBXW... she was looking for stuff from the house. I chose not to respond to the text. I found the tool she was asking about and I have packaged it up and is ready to send to her Dad. It isn't worth it to me to keep stuff just to have a sense of evening things up.
Yes, the monsters can only scare us if we let them.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
Monsters- so very true. With text and phone they can very conveniently rear their ugly heads.Its so intrusive.
Seriously Lefty, Check out the free pages on amazon for no more Mr. nice guy to see if you relate? its helping me ALOT.
Lets make some new years resolutions this year and share them? 2-3 each. What do you think buddy?
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
In all seriousness... I do not acknowledge dates like this. I just see no point. It is not cause for a celebration in my life. The remembering tends to drag me down to another level that I have worked hard to elevate myself up from. I want to fill my mind with joyous thoughts... Like ice cream or my dog or working on my Pontiac.
I hope you don't dwell on this, Brother.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
