Mockers2
"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
Friedrich Nietzsche
Congratulations on the baby step of 2000 calories! it is either the acupuncture or the AD meds. Just wanted to stop by and say hi. and (((((HUGS))))) Your daughter is lucky to have you as a mom.
Take care SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
Quote: it is either the acupuncture or the AD meds
A little of both, I think
Yesterday the acupuncturist gave us these little chimney things to stick on my daughter and light - a form of cupping, I guess. I told my D as I was lighting them "This looks like something on that show Jackass!" We were giggling so hard I could barely light them
Ellie, Thanks so much for the info. I ordered a book about cutting. D met her counselor yesterday. Sheesh are you ever right about DB'ing being easy compared to trauma with the kids.......
Thanks again.
Kim
"Those who don't read, have no
advantage over those who can't"
Mark Twain
Just talked to my mom - she had dinner this week with my 18 year old niece - the daughter of my idiot older brother who was the WAS to his third wife. Two disturbing pieces of news:
First - brother is engaged to his new girlfriend. (Of course, his divorce isn't final yet!). I feel sorry for her - she has no idea what she's getting into. I feel duty-bound to warn her - I feel so guilty his last wife didn't know he had cheated on his first wife - she says she wouldn't have married him if she'd known.
Second piece of news - mom was talking to niece about what's happening with my D. Niece said she hopes the psychiatrist helps my D but that she felt her own wasn't helping her. We had no idea she was seeing a psych - she says for a "stress-related disorder". She has lost 15 lbs - is down to 115 and is taller than I am so she's at least 5'7" or 5'8". Something about her responses to my mom makes us very worried that she may have an eating disorder as well - it can run in families.
BTW, I'm all in favor of full disclosure with the potential new SIL... somehow I think you're the ideal person for that job!
Sounds like you're going to be keeping an eye on lots of female relatives. I'll say a prayer for you to keep your clarity and strength. They're lucky to have someone who is as committed to healing as you are as part of the family.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
How is your D doing? I've been thinking about what you wrote re warning your future SIL. That's a toughie! On the one hand, I usually advocate for everyone in families to mind their own business, but on the other hand, this very well may qualify as a duty to the "sisterhood". I usually try to send it through my "how would I like to be treated if this were me" filter. In the end, I guess I would like to be forewarned. Ultimately this unfortunate woman will have to make her own decisions anyway, but at least she will have some good solid information on which to base her decisions.
Well, Ellie, as usual, you centainly have got your hands full! Good luck!
Christine
I am the master of creating positive energy and love in my own environment. I am the source of love in my life. It starts with me! This energy radiates from me! It gives me strength, courage, wisdom and grace!
Last night I went out to dinner and a movie with my H. During the previews, I had to go out to the lobby for something, and when I was walking back to my seat, I pretended to trip just as i got to my H so that I landed on him with my chest in his face :0 His face lit up with the biggest smile, and it really reminded me why this particular 180 is so important to our marriage.
You see, playfulness has never been high on my agenda. Oh, I can be humorous and witty, but I'm a pretty serious person in most ways, and "sillyness" has never been a part of my repertoire. One of my 180's was to relax and be more playful with my H. That smile on his face last night tells the whole story
So loosen up and be a little silly today - it won't hurt, I promise
Anorexia update - D was weighed on Monday - no real weight gain (maybe a few ounces) but she's been eating 1800 - 2000 calories a day, and not purging. I'm going to need to push her calories up more. She was having a bad day that day - I spent a lot of time talking to the delusional eating disorder, and at one point actually said to her something like "you only see it that way because you have a mental illness!". It really wasn't as bad as it sounds , but it was blunt.
Yesterday, though, was a great day - D was upbeat and positive, had a big lunch out with me, and all during lunch she discussed her anorexia with me in a very insightful, mature, objective way. We talked about OCD and the biological studies related to it, the addictive nature of purging, etc., etc. She's such a fabulous kid.
