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One thing my wife said to me in a recent conversation is "Some people would be on their knees begging for forgiveness, you seem to just expect it"

I would get on my knees and beg for forgiveness but I thought it would push her further away and in the early stages after BD I did, & I wrote a very empathetic & understanding letter.

By saying this is this what she wants from me & also is it what I should do if it is what she wants? Should I beg for her forgiveness or is this just what she thinks she wants?

It might be time for you to go back and read your own thread again. Hopefully you see what many of the posters in your thread have said with their advice.

I'm not sure what to say to be honest. I'm actually stunned that you'd be willing to beg. That's a HUGE HUGE statement on where you've gotten yourself.

Wife mentioned a couple of weeks ago about me picking our son up on Christmas day after dinner. At the weekend she confirmed that 3pm would be the time I should pick him up, have him overnight and drop him off next day at 3pm.

When thinking about it last night and the reality of it set in I felt that it was disappointing to not see him at all during the morning of Christmas day, it seems a long time to wait until 3pm and that most of the day will be gone.

Considering they are only living at wife's parents 2 minutes down the road I asked the question today if there was a way for me to see him for maybe an hour in the morning and then drop him back off for his dinner & then collect him later as planned.

My wife agreed that would be OK.

Then a few hours later she sent me a text message saying it wouldn't be fair on our son to be going backwards & forwards all day & we are sticking to original plan. This coincided with the time her mum & dad get in from work, coincidence?

When I text her to ask why the change, she is now just completely ignoring all text messages & will not answer her phone.

This is so infuriating. How can I not rise to this kind of behaviour.

I ended up bombarding her with 3 or 4 text messages and attempted to call her 3 or 4 times, all just ignored.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Could do with some advice/opinions.

I was thinking of asking/telling my wife about getting rid of our Sons toys & clothes that he has now grown out of.

We put lots of his clothes up in the loft for the future when we had another child & also there are lots of toys he has now grown out of that would have been saved for another child. Now because of the new Christmas toys I could do with getting rid of the unused ones to make room.

I would have liked to have more children & therefore would have saved any clothes/toys for the future.

What does anybody think about me asking/telling my wife that I am going to get rid of old clothes & toys or should I just leave it?