Just wanted to tell you that things are going great...in my simple opinion. Keep with with your positive goals....and by the way....your baby steps have turned into "toddler" steps, if you haven't noticed!
Just checked my horoscope and found this to be quite interesting:
Quote: Open your eyes and close your ears. You're being told a load of rubbish, but you're being shown something of immense relevance. If this week, you take anyone else's opinions, statements or promises at face value, you'll get nothing but a headache. If you read between the lines and draw your own conclusions, you'll see everything clearly and correctly. Trust your judgement and be aware that an old drama is nearly over. The stress and tension, strife and struggle that have begun to seem like a constant part of daily life will soon be nothing but a fast-fading memory.
Now that is giving me some food for thought today. Like many of you I am wondering what, if anything, will occur on V-day. I know that my H and I will be together for a bit as my D9 has two hockey games that afternoon.
I plan to get my H a card and maybe a suggestive gift (he always appreciates a sexy item or two for us to enjoy). But other than that, I am not planning to do or say anything. But I'm not really into special days like that anyway. I would rather have special days all the time, or a spontaneous one every once in a while.
Haven't seen H since Sunday but talked briefly last night when kids called him to say goodnight. I know he was with some of his friends or something just by how he was speaking. I am sure he was out ice-fishing again with his buddies.
Well, more of the same here. Have to get back to decluttering and organizing the playroom. Bought bins for all of the art supplies and a labeler too. Wish me luck!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Deb, for us sex was sporadic for several years what with three small children, exhaustion, and the real culprit - lack of good communication and listening by each of us.
Now, after DBing since last August, and our breakthrough in October, sex is spontaneous - wherever and whenever. I forgot to mention in my last update, that on Saturday, he "scrubbed my back" ( ) when I took a shower late Saturday morning. The kids were involved in various activities around the house at the time.
Needless to say, these actions speak quite loudly and I really don't need Valentine's Day to tell me that he loves me!
Of course, I still await the biggest action of them all - his moving back home. That is why I still await patiently and keep on DBing with all of you.
You guys certainly help keep my PMA up!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
AS much time as he spends at home, he is almost living there now! LOL
You're right! V-day doesn't matter what you have right now is awesome! What I'd give to have my H spend the night! Oh well. So many positives, you are so lucky!
got a breakthru this past week & not sure exactly what to do
terrified i guess, but have been good about no R talk after his revelation abit fearful that maybe i should say something but biting my tongue for now - ooouuuch but it's not off yet
Hi gang. Need to catch up on some positives and reassure myself that a boring sitch is okay as long as it is positive!
djembequeen - hey keep on biting your tongue. I promised my H no R talks back in August and I haven't done it yet. If I can do it, so can you. You'll know when you are ready to come to piecing..
Positives:
1. D9 won her hockey games last Sat! So has another this weekend and next! H comes to all the games and sits with us. 2. MIL took kids and I to dinner Monday night. I invited H and he came. 3. After not having alone time since last Friday (and no either) H came over late last night. Got a great massage and some too! 4. H and I watched TV and conversed again last night too! 5. H has talked "we" a few times. Inadvertantly or not, I see it as positive since he has been so guarded in doing that since moving out.
Will do more later, but need to go pick up D9 at school! Have to round up S3 and S5 first -
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Quote: Shortly after a plane takes off, there comes a scary moment. The ground is failing away, but the sky is not near enough. There's no turning back, but there's no proof yet that you're airborne. We find you this weekend in a similarly tense frame of mind. You hope you're doing the right thing, you know you have passed a point of no return, but you still await a sign of success. The triple conjunction of the Sun, Moon and Uranus will ensure you get all the reassurance and inspiration you need before long.
So hopefully something positive is coming along. I feel like I am getting stuck in one spot right now.
My H and I are emailing right now about going out in the ice-house but not really fishing - . But I think he will take our daughter tonight as she hasn't gone all year and the ice will soon be gone. Besides, it is a portable ice-house and we don't need a lake for what we are thinking.
I am going out with my college roommates tomorrow night for a while. One of their husbands does karaoke at a small town bar. I may even get up and do a number or two. Any requests?
I plan to get back at the household projects now that I have a good handle on the conference that I am planning for next month.
But first, mommy duty calls. My boys are outside building a snow fort and want me to help. We want to hide behind it when my D9 comes home from school. We may even toss a snowball or two. Anyone else want to play?
Sorry I have been lurking this week more than anything. I have kept up pretty well and will post to you folks as soon as I can. Weekends are tough as I don't get much computer time usually.
I keep all of you in my prayers and hope you do the same.
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
) when I took a shower late Saturday morning. The kids were involved in various activities around the house at the time. 
