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Wife asked me the other day if I wanted to be apart if Xmas eve at her parents. I responded what can we do to make it comfortable for us and the others while we are both there. She said I'm sure u have to make a couple of stops so just meet us there. I figured she didn't want to ride together which is fine w me. A complete 360 from the week before when she told her mom that she didn't want me there at all. This weekend s has strep throat and she decided to supposedly go out of town this weekend till sun. She text me saying, I trust u can handle s. Really? Trust that I can handle him being sick and u are going to be gone? WOW!! Anyway s and I are staying in having fun and we are going to church on sun.

Just wanted to say, Merry Xmas to all here! I pray for a Xmas miracle.

Got another phone conference w my attorney today to talk about what her attorney and mine went over yesterday. Nice. A day before our s birthday. Great timing.

Had my phone conference just now and opposing counsel sais that w is getting fustrated that things aren't moving along. He got the sense that she doesn't want it to go to trial. I guess not since I confronted her on OM. So it's in my move if I want, from what my attorney sais. They want to go to a settlement conference so I can pay more money to attorney. My attorney said to get back to him by next week on this and that he's not pushing me for a decision. .

Getting real frustrated and trying to calm down. W text me this morning on how my refinancing of the house was going. She doesn't even call it the house but by the street name. Holidays are over and s bday too. Now more stress. I saw a pic if her on face book and a friend asked me if she had anything done. She looked fake. Told them she was doing Botox and then they asked if she has hair extensions. Which I said yes. That friend said she looks too skinny. I want her out of the house. She is humiliating me the way she acts around others and carrying on w OM the way she is. Ughhh. At least I get to speak to my coach today.

When is enough enough and u completely stop DB? It's been 2 and 1/2 years w this. I don't know how much more humility I can take. People close to me and to her tell me I am a saint for doing this. My thinking is a divorce is a divorce. All ties are cut except our s.

A huge blow the last 12 hours. My father in law passed away and it has hit everyone really bad. I'm trying to hold it together because he meant a lot to me. W wants alone time with her mom this morning which she knows I am there to support her and her mom any way I can even under our personal problems. She made a comment to me that she knows I care and that I loved her dad. W wants to tell our s this afternoon and I pray to God to give him the strength. I also worry about him. Life is short and life [censored] sometimes. Wow.

kenva, I am new to your sitch, so I don't know the whole background, just noticed you are going through a hard time.



What would stopping DB look like to you? When I get frustrated and want to throw in the towel with DBing, I think - but what would I change? To me, DBing is being the person I want to be, so I would change nothing. If you are tired of this, you could go more dim, is that what you are thinking of?

I'm sorry about your FIL. I am sure this is difficult on everyone, in an already difficult situation. It is kind of you to be there for your W despite what you are going through right now. Make sure you take good care of yourself, too.

Thank you mellisag. To keep me going I think if our s and what a great family we could be. I get frustrated cause she is a very stubborn woman. I plan on sticking it out with DB till what ever the outcome is. But with what had happened with my FIL I am respecting w to give her time with her mother. This hurts just as bad because I am so close with her family and her dad did mean a lot to me that I feel helpless not being around them. I care for all of them so much and even her sister had told me on the phone earlier to come by. Again. I respect w's wish to leave them some time.

W called me and asked me to bring s over to see his grandmother and to tell him that his grandfather passed away. We got to the house and s kept asking why there were people there. I choked up. We walked in and he saw his grandmother and then w took him in other room to talk to him. I mentioned to her I wanted to be with them but she said she wanted alone time with s to explain to him. I prayed for him to be strong. He got sad but at 7 yrs old how much can they understand. W was a little distant from me but I was ok with it. She knows I will do anything to help out. FIL meant alot to me. This morning we spoke and she was warm. I am taking s over to the house again today after school. It's hard trying to deal with our situation and being hurt losing a man that was like a father to me and that was deeply hurt with what was going on with me and w.