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Thank you so much for sharing this Raine. It has restored some of my hope that one day I'll be in your shoes. I look forward to the days that I can enjoy hugs and kisses and the shy nature of a new relationship. You are in such a wonderful place. We can all make it there if we fight the good fight and perservere. I love that you shared this. It made my night. Thank you.

I second what JFun said. You are one tough cookie, I am so glad that you and your H are finally finding that happier place and the new beginning. You are inspiring. When I think what you have been through in your sitch and where you are now, it gives me so much more hope that I can get through this and to that place too.

I third it.....you're so stong and have come such a long way. It's the final stretch. Be kind to yourself, you've worked so hard on yourself, it's been a journey for you both.

Rooting for you with Pom poms.

Pics please.

Yes Raine, it was always you. You are no doubt the one he loves, and always has loved.

You have been through a lot, as has your H. Except your pain was not self- inflicted, and you did not hurt the ones you love most. I can only imagine all the emotions swirling around within each of you right now.

You're doing great Raine. Keep moving forward, feeling what you need to feel, opening some doors and closing others, figuring things out as you go.

Very happy for you

I have those days too. I think they are normal and MWD even mentions that it's not easy.

Hang in there. Just wanted you to know that all the mixed feelings you are having can be validated, because I have them too

Love the update Raine. I am so happy for you. I'm glad you decided to ease up on the questions for H and you realized it was killing the reconnection. You will get your answers in time, continue to be patient.

He has made so much progress. To me being a great father is awesome. I think MWD says we are the last one he reconnects with and it is obvious he is doing this full throttle. Enjoy this. I think without saying it he is showing you that you can trust him.

You have been so strong through this Raine. Having a baby along with taking care of the rest of the kids is so tough. You deserve the best and you're going to get it.
Keep staying strong and hang in there.

Raine,

I have been following you and I'm rooting for your healing.

I was rereading MLC in DR this morning. She not only mentions what you are going through but addresses this as well. I hope you have DR and will reread it too.

You have suffered and endured a huge trauma. Those feelings are valid, and will be there for sometime. Perhaps as long as the whole crisis.

We live the pain min by min, day after day, these things do not just dissipate.

Hang in there and try to focus on Christmas and yourself. I believe a massage, pedicure, or some form of pampering you wouldn't normally do is indeed mandatory therapy!

I am in awe of your ability to ML with all the emotions whirling around in your brain. THAT is truly an incredible feat, you deserve not only kudos but an award!

I will continue to follow and quietly support your progress. You are giving hope to many, and your candor is so helpful.

You will be a vet someday ,with wise and sage advice that others will be hanging on for dear life; will pray you visit their thread!

Sending many hugs for a real recovery and lasting reconciliation. <3<3<3's

Here's a huge Bear Hug from Wonkie! (((Raine)))!!!!!

You're an inspirational lady!

Raine, I really appreciate your complete frankness and sincerity of expression on how you are dealing with your re-connection.

Your vulnerability is something amazing to behold, let alone share with so many people.

I am so thrilled to see your H really trying to connect and you allowing him to do this in his own way. I can truly understand the hesitation as well as the flashbacks. Very hard to deal with and you are doing this extremely well and with such grace in your heart. I hope you can see that in yourself, despite all the faltering and small setbacks.

I wish you all the best in your continuing journey.