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yes to feel and hear that I am loved would just be so incredible..


Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
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True. But what to do when you are seperated and she was the one to leave. By being new to DBing is it a good idea to send something that is the question. I have always tried to make it a special day for her. Would not doing anything, maybe jolt her or should I do something to show I care? That is the question?

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I am in that same sitch...


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how long have you been married? I think I will take the advice of the other, something that she likes but not personal, like spa, hair appointment, or something like that. Just keep it simple and not make a big romantic deal out it like I normally do. What do you think about that?
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four years. Do what you like I like the idea of something more personal, from the heart..


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four years. Do what you like I like the idea of something more personal, from the heart..




No.

The book I am giving ex-b is from the heart, but it's something I know he'd buy for himself (if he knew the book existed). It is something that HE will appreciate.

When you are talking "from the heart", you are talking in more of an emotional sense. You don't want to give her something YOU want to give her but something she will appreciate. There is a huge difference.


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I know for mother's day last year I made her a book from the poems I had written in counseling, it came from the heart. It didn't mean that much to her. I don't know I am so messed up right now I don't know what to do. I just posted a poem I wrote in january on the newcomers. Check it out, I don't know if its any good, but hopefully it will help someone out there.

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same sitch - I dont know what to do. In counseling we agreed that anything short of physical contact was ok, but she wants a Sep agreement.

Maybe I'll just flat out ask her (not sure if that's persuing). The alternative would be a card from our S3 and that's it.

Dunno.

lost and confused.


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Bill, from knowing more about your sitch you are definitely in worse sitch than me and my heart truly goes out to you. I think you should go with what makes you happy on it. Go with what's in your heart. so the doctor is tomorrow. i wish you luck on that. I can't remember is she still at home. I think right now you just need to be there for support whenever she needs it as I can only imagine how messed up she must be in the head right now. I wish I could give better advice, and i really do feel for you in your sitch.

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