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Forward,
I am so sorry that you are disappointed in my tone on this thread that I created and it is your right not to agree w/what I've posted. However, what I have posted on MY thread is my news that I wanted to share w/people I consider my friends who have walked some of the journey with me. Sharing of those feelings on this forum falls under something called freedom of speech and I do believe that this is still practiced in the United States even though there are many stars being smacked for saying what is on their minds. Unless something has changed in the last 60 days, this is still a public forum whereby I can come here to vent, rage, be happy or share something about my life, whether it be positive or negative. You, as the reader, have the option of reading and posting to this thread. If you don't like the tone here, then you, the reader, can block all posting on this particular thread w/the simple click of a button or just skip over this thread.

I do appreciate your comments, but until you've walked a mile in my shoes and have had full disclosure of what I have had to deal w/concerning finances, debt, my name being used to obtain loans 4 years ago, etc., then I ask that you refrain from chastising me for the tone and feelings that I have displayed here. When you've walked that mile in my shoes, please come back here and we will discuss my tone and how I feel bit further.

Until then, maybe it would be best if you refrained from reading and posting to my thread since I am such a disappointment to you. Again, it's very simple to block the postings on this thread w/a click of a button.

Job,
I say this as an ally and board friend and I am sorry if you see my comments as someone trying to attack you. We on this board share similar experiences w/MLC--financial and otherwise. My experience involved a 15-month-old. We all have shoes and while we may not have walked the same distance, we've typically bought them from similar shops and have followed similar trails. That is why we are here--we have these unfortunate experiences in common.

I think all of us understand the desire for "karma"--although if I am going to be honest I know that for me it's a bit of a code for "revenge." Part of me harbors this a little bit but over the years it's nearly gone away. It probably helps that OW left the picture long ago and X isn't with anyone that I know of. So yes, I understand your feelings, but Job dear, is this where you want your focus to be after all this time?

I urge you not to waste another drop of good and tasty wine drinking to X's comeuppance. Pour another glass and I will come over and drink to YOU, and YOUR future and YOUR fortune, growth, and life.

Forward, we all walk different paths, and have things to go through. I do not see karma as revenge.

Some MLCers are meaner than others, and continue to do vengeful things way after the lbs has moved forward, and is trying to live their life. We can let it go and roll with the continued punches (which we do not seek out - they just keep coming after us). But if life does then catch up with them it is very very hard not to feel that some sort of reckoning has occurred.

You have made your point, and I understand it, and honour the sentiment, but you hold others to a very high standard.

Forward,

You are entitled to your opinions, just as I am entitled to mine. As the old saying goes, we will agree to disagree.

Gotta love you, Forward. It was so sweet of you to come here and offer up advice while chastising at the same time. Wow! "Mom" you don't have to worry. I've got this.

As long as the freedom of speech exists and this forum remains a public forum, people are welcome to come here and post their thoughts whether they are positive or negative. Karma does happen and sometimes it's good or bad, it all depends upon the circumstances. If people now have to start worrying about what they are posting in the way of their thoughts, fears, concerns and yes, even karma thoughts, then where is the freedom of speech in all of this? It will be gone and what would be the use of this forum if they couldn't post about what they are feeling during their travels?

"Mom" you don't have to worry about me, my future, fortune, growth or life....I've got this and have been doing a pretty darn good job of it the last 14 years and will continue to do so.

So, please, don't waste another typed word here, there are many who need your advice around the forum. Take some time and visit w/them during this holiday season as they need all of the support that you can give.

This thread had moved back to page 4 or 5 and was dying a slow death until you came here today and brought it back to life. If you had noticed, I had not posted in almost a month, which should have brought up a light bulb moment and told you that if I'm not posting on that thread, then it wasn't a priority to me...but you've now placed it back front and center. Time to allow it to fade away and no, Forward, I'm not going to waste any more of my time or your time arguing over our opinions when we are both entitled to have different ones.

If it makes you feel better to continue posting here, by all means do so, as I'm not planning to come back and revisit this thread. I had stated the situation and left it at that, i.e., end of discussion.

Let's hope Santa doesn't get chastised for coming down the chimney and making a mess this year. LOL!

Merry Christmas and to all a good night!

Best wishes to you then, Job. As I said, most of us on here understand the desire for karma, of the revenge type or other. I've posted a few revenge fantasy threads in the past. But there is a time to let it go and each of us does it in our own time. I'm not entirely immune to flickers of emotions I'm not particularly proud of, but after 7+ years, well, a lot of water is under the bridge.

If you say you've moved on and this thread is is just a vent, then that's good.