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Thank you all so much for your supportive messages - it means a lot.

Been here a week, and just starting to find him creeping into my thoughts - must try harder to ignore them.

Will catch up with all of you as soon as I get my internet connection - I am becoming a familiar face in the library already...

I had a random e-mail from an acquaintance, what I want to share with you is what was printed on the bottom of the mail...

Women - life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Love the ones who don't just because you can. Believe everything happens for a reason.
If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it.
Kiss slowly. Forgive quickly.
God never said it would be easy. He just promised it would be worth it.

Seemed so appropriate. I have no idea why she had this on her signature, and she doesn't know my circumstances, however it is good advice.

Hope you all have a good day.

Aa,I'll have to read your story..
but the quote at bottom struck me this morning

Whilst I am happy moving on with my life, my curiosity and need for answers keeps me looking at whatever I can find on MLC. Yesterday I found a uk BlogSpot entitled "what is a midlife crisis?".

I have to say I found it quite insightful. It was written in a very straightforward manner, had some useful snippets of information and some interesting linked blogs.

I think it would be great reading for most of us, but especially those who are coming to this very fresh, with no indication of what is to come, or a mlc dictionary to translate.

I would also be interested in opinions from any vets of this site.

The end of another year...

I have to say that as an adult I do not particularly enjoy this holiday period. there is such a long build up, full of hype and expectations which rarely materialize. And it is all over so quickly - leaving you flat and fat!

I couldn't have guessed where I would be now when this year began, and I can't guess what this year will bring. I just start with hope.

The hope that I will be able to get a job and support myself, that I will have fun, laughter and joy in my life and that one day I will have the freedom to do what I want, when I want.

The biggest problem I have right now is knowing what it is I really want..!

" I do not particularly enjoy this holiday period. there is such a long build up, full of hype and expectations which rarely materialize. And it is all over so quickly - leaving you flat and fat!"

Have you always been this pessimistic? The holidays don't exist for YOU. They are what YOU make of them. You could easily turn your attitudes around depending on what you put into them.

I seriously recommend that you change your username. If you are going to keep referring to yourself as "All alone", you will always BE and FEEL 'all alone'.

I have a smartphone that appears to be smarter than me... somehow I managed to send everyone in my contact list (its not long) a blank text. I got an immediate response (text) from my sister. An immediate call from an old BF - concerned I needed help- sweet as he is 100's miles away. And a text from Ex!! Not heard from him since sept, despite all that has been going on with house, but a blank text gets a longish reply. WTF.

Mr Bond - no I have not always been as pessimistic, although I have never been a big fan of the NY celebrations, Christmas has always been a family time. Those we spent alone were at Ex's suggestion. However I have taken onboard your comments re my username. My mind is turned to finding an alternative. This is a year of new beginnings after all.

Hi Aa, I don't believe in a lot of coincidences. I believe you got that email for a reason. You were meant to see that quote at the bottom. It is a sign of a better year for you. Make a list of what you want to achieve this year, start small and build. You can do it!

I think MrB is onto something here, make your new user name more positive for the new year.

Hang in there Aa.

It sounds like your move will be a very positive change to your situation.

New username, hmm? "Always Awesome"?

Or you know, something along those lines.

Best wishes to you for the new year. New year, new you... make it the best you can.

Mr Bond, Pudmuddle and Tigerlily

thank you all for dropping by and encouraging me in my new year, new me - positively better me.

Have come up with a new name I hope you approve of in the spirit of this.

Now have to work on what it is I want and how to achieve it. It will be done!