Busy day here, but wanted to quickly respond to a few things...
Dear uRw ~ That's all I have to say about that.
Mach ~ I understand that you have been here for years, have made the journey many of us are traveling.
I believe you do not want to see me (or anyone else) sink.
Yes, people like myself are here to share and receive ideas, thoughts, and advice. I wouldn't have gotten this far without it.
The act of sharing your advice and thoughts does not make you seem superior. However, I sense there is often an insinuation in your posts - and not to me, just in general - that if others do not share the same ideas/opinions as you, that they are somehow wrong in their thinking.
Pehaps that is not your intent, or perhaps it is. Only you know the answer to that.
It brings to my mind a quote from someone who is very respected and admired around here: " You feel what you feel. There is no right or wrong."
AJ had spoken in a previous post about perspective. Truly, that's what it all comes down to. Our history, life experiences, personality, and current situation all play a part in our perspective.
So, it should be expected that we will each have a unique view of things. That is something that enhances being here, makes this place a great place to be no matter where you are at on your journey.
Thanks for the luck. I'll take it
My Rosa ~ yeah, living with E.T. isn't all it cracked up to be.
Thank you for you kind words. Most days are good, better than good - unless I have a run in with a certain FT at work! Lol!!
I love to see you positive my friend. You are a good person to the core. You deserve much happiness.
Miss A ~ I'm glad you are still around! Thanks for stopping by! We could use an update...maybe...just sayin
Hope you are doing well
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Hi TVS! I just want to commend you on your outstanding swimming ability, and thank you for the free lessons you've given to many of us when we were sinking.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
It brings to my mind a quote from someone who is very respected and admired around here: " You feel what you feel. There is no right or wrong."
Wanted to share a great quote with you, which I have posted beofre, but it is worth repeating.
"You are entitled to your own opinions. You are not entitled to your own facts.
TVS you are doing a great job here. My view, from being around here for far too long, LOL, is that the 'tone' of men's and women's postings is very different, and indeed discourse analysis confirms this. Ideally we need to learn other languages as adults from someone of our own sex as men and women speak differently in all cultures.
I too share your view that male posters can appear condescending - but I do not think it is intended, it is our perception. Women tend to write in a more tentative style (not universally true of course) So maybe each sex needs to be aware of this.
More controversially, I have also noticed that women sometimes respond differently to male posters. In general men play more hard ball than women!
I'm not so sure that it was me that had the exposed nerve hit.
"Me thinks you have a skewed vision of forgiveness..."
Well, me thinks you seem a tad bit superior and judgemental in that statement.
However, you are entitled to your opinion of what forgiveness is. But - so am I.
Maybe, it looks different for me than you. I'm good with that.
I stand by what I have said about forgiveness.
If Mach can rile you up this quickly, I am curious what the interactions with your MLCer actually look like…
It doesn’t usually take much for a MLCer to get the LBS upset…
That is why we need to develop thick skin.
I’m not sure you have that yet.
Originally Posted By: TVS
It brings to my mind a quote from someone who is very respected and admired around here: " You feel what you feel. There is no right or wrong."
We all respect UR around here.
She is pretty wonderful most days.
I don’t have time right now to break down your response to me, however I will take the opportunity to say that I felt that your answers were very condescending.
And I have seen that attitude throughout your threads, yes I went back and read them all.
If people on the outside of your situation can get that feeling from you, again I have to wonder what your H’s perspective is…
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
