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Thank you job.

I do find it odd he wanted to confirm their schedules with me......hasn't done that before.

I think he's trying to be a little more accommodating these days. Of course, no money has shown up yet and little does he know that you've not forgotten about it.

I do think that some of what you've said to him before is just starting to sink in. Of course, the holidays are right around the corner and they are usually very squirrely around them. So, that means anything can transpire. LOL!

Hahahaha. Yes, I certainly have not forgotten about the money. He messaged me an hour later

Someone called me from the house was it s19 or you?

Me
That would have been S19 (I'm at work even though you don't know that!)

Odd. Why would he message me to ask who called? I couldn't get you to text me a few weeks ago and now you want to know who's calling you?

Maybe some of what I said did sink in. Wonder what else will transpire? At least he's being nice now.

WR, let yourself enjoy the niceness. You seem to be looking ahead to "what's next?" But I think you should take a moment to just pat yourself on the back and acknowledge that you are doing good work, you are seeing positive behavior. Let that sink in before you start worrying about what will happen tomorrow.

Oh tl thank you. You're so right!!!

I'll step back and enjoy this moment and just leave it as is.

Yesterday was a full day of talk for me and H. We had all the messages earlier I the day about the kids going to movie night, asking who called him from the house, and then when I got home, about 5:40, I got a text about S14 being hurt in gym class.

S19 called me at 10ish am saying S14 heard something snap when he got tacked in wrestling. S19 was freaking out. I messaged S14 and he said "no, I'm ok" so I told S19 that he's ok. S19 also talked to H about it (H's work, our home and S14's school are all within blocks of each other). Anyway last night I get the message
"S19 told me S14 hurt himself in gym. Is he ok?"
"He's ok. A little sore but he's just fine. It's wrestling right now"
"Ok. He told S19 he heard a crack"
"I have a feeling it's a big of an over exaggeration (or the school would have called me instead but oh well) I talked to S14 two minutes later and he said he was fine. I'm thinking he had the wind knocked out of him more than anything"
"Ok. Thank you"
"Of course"

Then I wen to parent teacher and saw the teacher (G) who was going to call H about the report card, etc. G said he was surprised that H called him back because I said he wouldn't. I had to let G know that H is acting out of character and messaged me constantly over random stuff. G mentioned that he could tell H wanted to engage, ask more questions, but G didn't want to start a conversation and told him the bell had rung and he had to go (which it had and he did). G emailed the report card and iep to H on Wednesday.

I noticed on S14's phone he told H on Wednesday night he did want to go the movie so I am still at a loss as to why h felt the need to confirm S14's availability with me.

Another text......did I get school pics of S14?

Yes, I did, but I haven't had a chance to pick them up and i don't think I should have to pay more money out to him so he can have stuff. Can I tell him he can order some by phoning the photographer??

WR,
MLCers tend to forget what they've been told. Thus, the added text message about your S14 meeting up for movie night. There are some MLCers that you have to remind about things over and over again because their memories are mush or should I say swiss cheese? The depression causes this issue.

About the school photos...I know he owes you money and he's been a real butter cup about things...but be the better person and advise him when you are picking them up. I would then advise him what the price is of the photos and that if he wants something different from what you ordered, he will have to order and pay from them himself. I would give him one photo when you do get them. Be the better person and show this man that you can rise above and beyond his silly stuff.

I know you love to just tell him that he needs to order his own right off the bat...but this would just give him more justification for his nasty behavior. Lead by example and who knows...maybe someone in his cheesy brain he just may cough up the $$$. I believe in miracles!

Yeah, not sure what's going on with that job. It was bad before but now....good Lord

I messaged him
I ordered them but didn't have then $40 at the time so I need to go pick them up from the photographer.

It's the truth. I didn't so I need to.

Yesterday, when S19 was talking to him he asked where I was. Asked if I was at the wholesaler. S19 said yes. H then asked if I had a wedding this weekend and he said yes. I don't think H needs to know I'm working reg hours but don't want him to lie either so I said next time just tell dad you don't know why I'm down there.

Thoughts?