No mind reading allowed. It wouldn't do you any good, besides. You know damn well, as men, we would invariably come to the wrong conclusion. It's that feeble little man brain thing...
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
Her making and keeping eye contact and not looking away is not enough? Baby steps, grasshopper, baby steps!
Eye contact is something you do when there is good things going on...
I could look into her eyes all day. I just need more.
For the year leading up to BD, I told her how important I thought it was that we make our R a priority. This after finding out she couldn't have children. It is now 10 months since BD. 200 days since she moved out. I'm struggling to keep going on. I feel like I have put off my own needs for nearly two years. I'm not saying that I don't share responsibility, but I am so tired of feeling alone. No one to share anything with. I had a grandfather whom I never met because he died of a heart attack at my age. It could all end tomorrow. Who would know? Who would care? Maybe this has all triggered a MLC for me. I cannot say.
I hope I'll be more rational tomorrow. It is just so hard to see her every day and not to reach out and hold her, to say what is in my heart.
No mind reading allowed. It wouldn't do you any good, besides. You know damn well, as men, we would invariably come to the wrong conclusion. It's that feeble little man brain thing...
As always, MrCAS, you are right. It's only that she somehow expected me to mind read. She did not say what she was thinking or feeling. Her canned response is, "I should have known." How is that not expecting mind reading? Of course, she is just as much to blame. She thinks she knows me so well, what I feel and what I would do. Only when she shares her mind reading, it doesn't come close what I think or feel. However, I am not in a position to convince her otherwise. I have tried so hard through my words and actions to demonstrate otherwise. Like so many WAS, she sees the difference, but refuses to trust it.
That Def Leppard sound bite will be in your head all night. You can thank me later... or not.
LOL, Def Leppard. Definitely playing to my music preferences.
You keep me on the straight and narrow. I continue to empathize and validate. My TC has me doing something playful for halloween. Any other suggestions?
Not much to report today. I talked briefly with my W. She was chatty about some technical problems she had, about material she presented that morning, and a YouTube video she recommended. It was a short conversation and I did not talk to her again. I also did not receive any emails.
A mix of conflicting messages today. When I approached her about something work related, she started out irritated. Then she shared what she was working on. Shortly afterwards, she became chatty, talking about people and places from our past (although nothing that directly included me). At one point she was wringing her hands, but then she started smiling and laughing as she reminisced. She later stopped by to deliver a document she had been working on. However, she seems back to walking past my office and not looking at me or acknowledging me.
"Trust is a must or your game is a bust" - Nelson Burton, Jr.
Her trust will come when she sees consistent actions... and more actions... and when you start trusting in yourself.
I hope I don't need a divining rod to find my way. I question what actions to take because it seems like so many actions would be pursuit. Not pursuing seems like inaction.
I don't know why, but my anxiety has been building all afternoon and evening. After so much communication last week, she has been cool and relatively quiet this week. Is this more of the roller coaster and I should know better? Or did I blow my chance when there was a fragile moment on her part?
