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Well, last night he found my lock box that I had hidden away with stuff I didn't want to disappear from around here. I'm not sure if he was angry or just hurt, but he was clearly agitated. At least he managed to not blow a gasket.

He did, however, push the right buttons and I couldn't keep my mouth shut. I told him that getting a divorce, remaining friends and being business partners was something I can't do. He tried to reason with me, but I didn't back down from that. He went to bed mad.

This morning he told me that we would talk and that changes would be made. I have no idea where he wants to go with that one. He gave me a long hug (which I didn't accept to enthusiastically) and told me he did care about me.

I can't seem to make him shake this idea that I will run his business over here while he's living another life overseas. Every time I tell him that I don't want to run his business here, he starts trying to lay a guilt trip on me. I think that is his biggest fear that I will walk away from the business and he needs me there.

If we go the big D route, I definitely don't want to run his business and be his partner. He can't afford to buy me out, so I don't know how to handle it. (He will have to hire two people to replace me - for finances and web work).

I will be spending Christmas with my sister. We haven't done that in years, so it will be good to get together for the holiday.

Not sure about New Year's. I haven't thought that far ahead.

What? He has it all worked out in his head and you won't play along because you have your own life and decisions?!?? LOL. They do that, don't they?


As for the business, you'll likely talk it over with the lawyer. They can be creative and come up with ways that can be equitable. I suspect that's the last of your worries when it comes down to it.

Sounds like fun plans for the holidays.

Take care,
AJ

Thanks for your support, AJ. I really appreciate it.

The lawyer said that there is no way we can be business partners after D. When I told H I saw the lawyer because I was trying to figure out what was in my best interest for MY future, he immediately asked what would happen to the business partnership. When I told him what the lawyer said, he told me I needed another lawyer! LOL.

I got into the office this morning and realized it was the absolute last place I wanted to be. I did what had to be done and left.

I have always been somewhat of an introvert and not the type that likes a ton of social stuff so I look for things that are fulfilling and enjoyable that I can do here at the house. I do go out with friends once in a while, but I'm more of a homebody. I'll really have to work on that one.

I'm looking for some online courses to take just for fun. I can't believe the courses that are available ... flower arranging? cake decorating? online? Wow. I'll find one and start after first of the year. I saw one on reading body language that might be interesting.