I think PM meant the boundary that you provided to your wife about her convo to end it with OM. Stick to your boundary. It will force her to end it or NOT. If you waffle, she will have no reason to pick a side.
However, there isn't anything written in stone saying that you cannot be understanding that its a difficult thing for her to do. But! STICK to your GROUNDS!!
What do you mean "fake crap"...???
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
My boundary is that we won't spend any time together until the convo happens - and she has been asking for us to be together every day or every other day. I won't break that boundary.
I'm just frustrated that she went WAY out of her way to tell me how much she loved me, and wanted a happy life and marriage, and she would take care of it TODAY - but then, she says, "Well, I ran out of time." She said she met Sunday night to end any in-person contact, so how long does it take to say, "Oh, by the way, we can't have any other contact either".
I even went out of my way not to text or call her knowing that it would be a difficult choice - as I've said before, she is basically ending an entire group of friends and way of life that is going to push her back to friends that love her and will hold her accountable. I can't imagine that'd be easy, especially with the guilt and shame she bears.
My apologies for the ambiguity. I meant communication between you and your W. Is that cut off too, or just no physical contact.
Regarding her, be patient.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
