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Wow, step away for a bit and the party gets rowdy!

CP, doesn't Guiness count as a food and a drink?

So I see you carried on into the night, lol. At least I got an extra hours sleep this morning The clocks went back last night Yes NQ I am feeling it this morning but it was worth it

On the H front, I was thinking I'll let him come round to do the decorating then tell him that I'm not selling I might even seduce him with a full body massage, he's already said he's up for that I'll have to do it after the decorating though because a full body massage leaves you feeling sleepy

Glad to hear it was worth it. I thought your clocks went back this week - ours change next weekend.

Sounds like a fair exchange - full body massage in exchange for decorating.

We're going to be doing some decorating here in the next week or so. Dad decided to strip the wallpaper out of both bathrooms, so he spent the last few days doing that. Today he's filling in cracks and is going to get the paint sometime over the week. S13 has volunteered to help - whether he actually will remains to be seen. I may have to bribe him with something LOL.

I don't really want him to come round and do the decorating, as he's got another agenda - he wants to sell the house The last thing I need as well as college work and looking after my son is selling the house on top of all this and then worrying about where I'm going to live. I certainly won't want to rent! It will mean that I'll have to contact a solicitor to see what my rights are, which is more time taken up It's alright for my H, he's got a lot of spare time on his hands.

Is there any way you can tell him you are not ready for that yet?Maybe buy some time and tell him all the things you have going on right now and tell him you want to wait until after the holidays. I don't know if his empathy chip is broken, like my H's is, but maybe worth a shot?

I've tried Pud, he already knows I've got a lot going on. The thing is that he's up to his eyeballs in debt right now and wants money soon. I still don't know how he's going to think selling the house will help as it'll probably take ages to sell it! I may ring up women's support and see what they have to say.

Hmmm...ok. It's amazing to me how he thinks that will help him. Once again only thinking of himself..SIGH.

Yes, call that support group. I know you got great advice from them last time, so maybe you can find some comfort in that. I'm not sure what I would do either, so let us know how that goes.

NQ- the closer the name you use sounds to a real name the more luck you will have, just keep messing around with it, until it goes through.

MileHigh.. you're right, Guiness is so filling!!! My best birthday cake I ever had was one my SIL made for me that was chocolate with chocolate Guiness icing...mmmmm....

TTD180.. I know it's hard but try not too worry about the house too much. It would probably be quite a ways down the road until anything like that actually happened. Is there any way you could keep the house? Would you want that? If it made you feel any better you could try to get legal advice as to what you are able to afford for housing, that way you would not have to dwell on it in your mind. For me that kept bothering me, the worry of not knowing. Having some answers seemed to help me so I wouldn't keep dwelling on it. Even if you did get some answers, it's just for peace of mind, just so that you know for yourself.

I think I might just cancel H coming round tomorrow, but I'll wait until tomorrow morning to tell him. I'm going to try and make a doctor's appt tomorrow as I'm still having women's personal problems and it's been going on for over a week now. If I make an appt, then I can text H and tell him that I'm off to the docs and that I don't feel too good at the mo. I feel really drained at the mo, I think I need some iron tablets as well.
You've got some good ideas though CP I did want to avoid going to get some advice or going to see a solicitor as I've got a lot of homework to do during half term and I wanted to catch up with some other jobs as well.