Hi NLW, curiousity makes me ask how long the months of no contact was for? I'm feeling like my sitch is a MLC WAW. It's sad to hear kids getting caught up in thier Dad's depression/confusion...
I think we have been about 2and a half months without any contact other than minimal exchange about finances or kids (and one blazing row about kids). Prior to this there were regular visits to the house on his part, phone chats, and even invites to dinner.
Holy moly, Just got two emails from XH back-to-back.
First announced he was not going to oppose my formal application that he remove the caveat from my house. (I can now extend the mortgage to cover all the credit card debt he left me with). Although he did say he could not do it straightaway as he "could not afford to". JC on a crutch! as they say.
Second email was as follows: Hi NLW,
Would I be able to take the kids (and you) out to dinner on Thursday? If you could let me know so I can change the roster it would be appreciated.
Good News NLW! I know you can't get everything straightened away as quickly as you would like, but it must be a relief to know that at least you will be able.
Maybe you should reply something like this “I will see if I can put it on my roster.” I seems like he wanted the confirmation that you are still there and easily agreed to dinner with him. If you put a bit resistance, maybe he will pursue you more, and you will have your steak dinner for sure. Just the thought.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
I'll believe that he's not going to oppose the removal of the caveat after the statutory 21 days are up and I've got the signed paper in my hand.
Experience tells me he can change his mind at the drop of a hat (or at the whisper of a very insecure OW).
And likewise for the dinner offer. Hell yes I would go. Three free steaks means a lot to us these days.
I emailed back "Sounds fine".
And he replied with: "I will have to see if I can change the roster." - almost as if I'd been the one to ask him to take us out to dinner.
Then it hit me. Don't expect the invite to stand. He will most likely change his mind.
And anyway, it always worries me that he's getting us together to drop another bomb.
At this stage, to me, it's really just a free steak.
Expect the bomb and enjoy the steak. What he says and does doesn't affect you anymore.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
He invites you to dinner and then says he'll have to see if he can pencil you in? The mind of a WAS! I swear you couldn't make this stuff up if you wanted to!
Hi NLW- how are you ? Have you heard back from him?
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Hi NLW- how are you ? Have you heard back from him?
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
