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Good choice. Stay strong.

Sent an email to her that I will move forward by monday with my attorney for violation of order. If she doesn't respond I will need to take that action

She sends me a late email with again semi compromise only. I have been doing this for so long and I better do a 180

She agrees for over nights but now she wants me to take over how many days I need and return myson. I think she just turned 360, I said just follow the court order as she constantly wants to just do what every she likes. As usual now she blames I kidnapped and I am controlling. This wknd she was to give son from 6 pm Friday to Sunday 6 pm. She doesn't give untill, 5 pm sat some silly excuse weather was under and wants him by 8 pm on sat, just said follow court orders will bring him 6 pm Sunday, sends an email, take him until you want, drop him at daycare and pick him. I go and drop him at 6 pm sunday she won't respond , just fed him and bring him home, will drop day care and see what she is upto. I can take care of him at my place. I said just follow orders to creat some stability and reliability.

She storms into my apt and I had to listen for over an hour about what she had to say, said I was at fault for every thing. I patient listened, said I was really sorry and felt sorry for her. I was little skeptical as she was insisting on asking what are you sorry for kind of making me say things. Just said sorry. I actually touched her and said I am really sorry for what you have to go through, she started tearing and it was a strange time. I just listened and did not interrupt, which in used to do a lot in the past. She just had to get that off the chest. I think she felt better. She said she forgave me but she has problem forgetting. She entered my apartment with rage and was in a smashing mental state to talking less pressured to singing a common song we liked, it's strange but I told her just talk to my step mom as she is the most fair person I could think of, what every it takes, I think she needs little more time. She was constantly cutting my time with son and finally she let's it go and says you can keep him as much, then she storms at 8 pm saying my compensation time is done and i wants son. I said that's fine, u can take, i was about to bath him, for last 2 days i picked him from day care feed, did every thing and didnot ask her any thing. She knows well i can do that gladly for my son who is just 3 yrs, once she text me at 7 am and says son is sick and had to cahnge my schedule took him to my apt and she was going to take it over at noon.

she had lot to talk, finally she just puts it out. I won't call or do any thing, let her have all the time and space. I feel much better and in lot better shape, interm of my moral ground and well being. Any advice is welcome

You did well. She's feeling the way she is because she's come to the realization that she can't control the situation. It's now in your hands. Stay firm. Next time don't apologize for YOU. Tell her you are sorry that she feels that way and that's it. You don't need to apologize for your positive actions now.

She has this tendency to belittle and down play any good I do. And exaggerates all the negatives. Next time donot apoligize for you, What do u mean. What's else do i do to stay firm.

She sends a nice email, saying thanks at the end, to pick my son this wknd at 7 pm and drop him at daycare on Monday. She wanted to see him for few hours on sat and sun, I said fine. Said I can do that for her. Had to clear some finance issue, she keeps bringing up. Just cleared it.

I am making it one email per day not to over do things. So she says i have huge ego and was not owning my actions and decisions. she says i was responsible for all hurt feelings and i should own up to them.this was in response to email i sent saying i feel sorry and hurt for what she has gone through. She wants to hear: X, i am sorry for what i did to you.

i sent the email michele sent this AM at 6 am as some thing to think. invited her for dinner on my sons BD on 30 th, she says i can take him for dinner but she need some time to go out with me for dinner. Fair enough, i just want her to realize what her role is and if she really owes up to her actions and choices. not sure if i should include it. i want to accept only if she honesty accepts her part

its GOT to be FAIR

So son was with me from Friday 5 pm till Monday 8 am. Did text her saying we will be out to temple for few hours. She said fine. I didnt want to bother her, had great time with son. Updated on sunday saying she was busy and on call and son is doing well at around 8 pm. Drop him at day care updated her that I just have a pair which I will clean and give her back. In her last email she says take son for dinner today on his birthday. I send an email when to pick him, she pretends she never said anything like that and says what dinner. I invited both of them, she refused to come and now she denies . She is unpredictable. I just sent her our may June schedule.
this is the kind of dishonesty and games is what makes it rough to trust her.