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Enjoy you time with your mom. Take a break from relationship books etc....focus on you onlymforma while. Have a good weekend!

Thanks Mimi, I'm planning on having a great weekend. She is pumped to see her granddog (my dog is wear my screenname comes from.)

I hope you enjoy your weekend as well!

Well it's been an interesting day to say the least. My mother arrived in town last night and things have been going splendidly. I was able to tell her all about my alcoholic tendencies and feel like a great burden has been lifted. We are connecting like never before.

This morning I went to a great AA meeting and then my mother accompanied me to church. We went to the early service and sat in a row I normally don't sit in. I usually don't arrive until later, once worship has already started. There were two seats next to my mother and I. Slightly before the service starts I hear "May we sit the.." and I look up to see my Brother-in-law and his wife looking down at my mother and I in disbelief. His wife regained her composure and recognized me. Granted I've lost 12 pounds since they last saw me and grown out my hair.

This is a huge church by the way, and there were hundreds of empty seats remaining. So they ended up sitting next to my mother and I. And we all acted like things were normal, my mom made conversation with BIL and asked him how his job was going. At the end, we all hugged and said good-byes. I didn't say anything but that it was nice seeing them. I didn't ask them to pass along messages or anything.

I had been praying for a sign all week that the fruits of my labor and changes were a step in the right direction. I don't want to read too far into things, but what are the chances of that? If anything, they usually go to the late service and sit in a different area. It was quite coincidental, and BIL's wife didn't even recognize me at first. The change in her facial expression was priceless.

The rest of the day was much less eventful, but overall feeling good all around. I was happy I took the time to dress up, and look good this morning. You never know who you will run in to.

Coincidence... God's way of staying anonymous.

What was the sermon about?

The sermon series is about fighting for your family. This one was more geared toward singles. But he said a couple lines for married guys about needing an instruction manual for our women. He also told them women that once they had us men re-trained after marrying us, it wasn't worth finding another guy to start over with. It was a pretty good service.

Oh? A sermon about fighting for family... keeping your spouses... your B&S-I-L coming to the early service... Them finding you... Hmmmmmmmmm...

Interesting.

Glad you had a great time with your mother; nothing like having mom around sometimes. Sounds like an interesting service as well. Have a good week!

Oh, it was definitely not like they were looking for me. The look on the sister in laws face went from a smile to "oh crap", it was pretty interesting to watch the recognition and then watch her rebound to "oh hey, good to see you!"

Thanks, having my mom here has really helped. This whole experience has brought me and my family much closer together. I guess I feared rejection, but they have been very loving and supportive, even though I was the one who really fouled up. They are also being very supportive of my decision to keep fighting for my marriage. I have my mom "acting as if" it's going to work out in my favor. She even said something to the effect of- well, we can rearrange when she comes back. At the start of this process, they were all about protecting me. I made it clear I needed them to support possible reconciliation, understand my W's position/feelings, and forgive her for walking away, especially given I put her through multiple emotional affairs.

Thanks for wishing me a good week, I hope yours goes well also.

That's great you have your family support. My family told me to move on..... they are convinced my H cheated and said that makes his leaving make more sense....even though there no evidence pointing to cheating (at least not PA). Instead of believing I did screw up in some ways in my marriage....I think they'd rather not believe the truth as i think they feel it would be a reflection on them.
So yeah I have not told them I'm still hoping to reconcile...lol
It must be really nice to have that support.

Keep up positive mental attitude K!