Wow NQ! I just caught up on your sitch and I must say I think your H had a breakthrough moment. True, you can't believe everything you hear right now, but what positive things he said. My jaw is still on the floor...
He may still retreat too, but I think this is tremendous progress for you, I hope you can see that. He still has to "defend" himself because of the bad choices he made and he may not know right now how to dig himself out. His fantasy life he created ain't so unicorns and rainbows anymore is it? Hmmmmmmmmm?
Good for you, I'm happy for you.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
It would be nice to think you're right about a breakthrough. I'll just continue one day at a time as I have been. I need a few more positives before I start to believe it .
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I thought at first that you've gone nuts MH, lol. Then I remembered about the squirrel from another thread. You're forgiven hehe Yes I've cheered up now
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Had some of the women at the Pampered Chef party wondering just what kind of mom I am for a few minutes tonight. When I arrived there were only a couple of ladies already there and the hostess said she thought I was going to be late because S13 was shooting tonight. The looks we got when the other ladies heard that. What kind of mom lets her 13-year son spend the evening at a shooting range ? They laughed when it was explained that he's in Army Cadets, the shooting range is at a police station and he's only shooting an air rifle.
He didn't make the team, but he's not too upset as he wasn't really expecting to. We need to build up his upper body strength. The air rifles are 10 lbs and he struggles to hold it still enough to shoot straight. H bought him a set of weights just before he moved out but they're too heavy for S13. Gonna have to look into a smaller set for him to start with. Looks like I've got a fitness partner as he won't do the training on his own. No excuse for not getting fitter
It's a good job I've got a fully equipped kitchen and no money. Some of that Pampered Chef stuff is really cool . I could probably spend an awful lot of money on that stuff.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
That sounds like a good night I wondered what a pampered chef party was, I thought it was just like a pamper party, lol. Good luck with the fitness training, I need to do that as well When I get round to it of course, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Good luck with the fitness training, I need to do that as well When I get round to it of course, lol.
I think it's going to be more a case of motivating S13 to put down the video game controller and pick up the dumb bells . He agrees that he needs the training but when it comes to actually starting he's probably worse than I am. Don't know where he gets that from - LOL . He's suffering from the typical teenager case of idle-itis - unfortunately there's not much of a cure for that
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
. I could probably spend an awful lot of money on that stuff.
. He's suffering from the typical teenager case of idle-itis 
- unfortunately there's not much of a cure for that