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NQ- I too wish I had snow whites helpers too to help with all the cleaning around the house. I had couple days of surprise's from my 9 year old. He has been helping picking things up around the house and he has been on his 13 year old brother about keep The house clean so that way I don't have to do everything myself. Oh how I love my 9 year old he just keeps me laughing all The time.

Kids are great. I know my son has been the one thing that has really kept me strong through all this. He helps around the house - although I do have to "bribe" him with pocket money but I guess that's to be expected from a teenager .

Great news K I know what you mean about teens, I just give up with mine, lol

Had a great day with S13. The fire station wasn't actually open when we got there but we did find a few of the other open buildings. One of them used to be small arms factory and they had an army display as part of their exhibition. S13 had a ball climbing on the tank they had there. Some of his Cadet corps were there as well - the building was their original base before they outgrew that site, and the parent auxiliary were running a fund-raising BBQ as well.

Got home to find my dad doing some more clearing out in the garage - another two bags of garbage to go out on Tuesday (looks like I'm going to have to "borrow" the neighbour's bag allowance again I think). At least we can move around in there now without having to climb over stuff all the time

We spent some of this evening catching up on the recorded TV shows - now we're ready for next week's episodes . S13 is now crawling round the floor playing one of his games and I've finally got time to catch up on this forum.

H should be around tomorrow and hopefully he'll get some more packing done - I've found him a couple of empty boxes he can use (hint, hint ) . The sooner his stuff is packed up, the sooner I can get serious with the reorganizing and decluttering. I did make some notes with ideas of what I want to do - just in case I forget by the time I get around to actually doing it.

Sounds like a great day Can I borrow your dad please? lol. Hope your H comes round today and takes more of his things

Anytime TTD - it'll give me a break from him for a while LOL Although I don't know if he wants to go back to England now that he's only got 2 in-laws and their respective kids living there and none of his own family. He'd more likely accept a trip to Boston to see his nephew and his family

As long as he declutters the place, lol I can;t afford to pay for his plane fare though! Hope everything's ok your end

H did turn up - but I didn't think he'd dare cancel after arranging for me to pick him up this morning. He happily handed over gas money as well without me asking for it. And he paid for brunch for the three of us at our favourite all-day breakfast cafe as well.

I had to bite my tongue at one point. He was talking about his beer buddy (my across the street neighbour) and commented that he seemed to be somewhat offish lately. I just sat there thinking "funny, that's what he said about you on Thursday when I was talking to him". H then asked if I'd seen beer buddy at all and how had he seemed to me. I just said that he seemed fine when I dropped some books off to him for his daughter.

H made no attempt to pack anything today; just said that he was going to make up a list of what he is going to take and that he'd arrange to come over one evening this week to do that. Guess that's another week of having his stuff still here. I really need to get tougher about him getting his stuff out of here. I didn't push it too much today as it is S13's time with his dad and I didn't really want to have S13 spend it helping his dad pack.

NQ, it might be worth the investment in some nice new moving boxes if he'd take the hint. Sounds like H and BB (beer buddy) are in a vicious circle - he's acting strange. No, he'sacting strange!

TTD, I've often felt it would be worth the expense to fly some family members out to help me with stuff. It costs so much to hire so-called professionals, and most of the time they just want to do a quick and dirty fix and be on their way. And you know how I feel about contractors these days... ahem....

Have you guys ever noticed how much easier it is to help someone else with their projects than to do your own?

I must repeat my biggest problem is that "perfect is the enemy of finished." Now, if I could just decide on the perfect allocation of storage in the kitchen I could get all the food off the countertops.... LOL

Actually, if I was to talk to many of H’s old friends, they’d probably all say the same thing about him as well. He’s cutting off a lot of his old friends – of course, the few that I know and that have spoken to me since BD aren’t too worried about it as they disagree with what he did, and is still doing, to his M and his family. I’ve told them that I’m moving on with my life and if he wants to catch up at some point, that’ll be up to him, but that I do appreciate their support .

I could bring some of the empty packing boxes in from the garage where they’ve been since we moved into my dad’s place, but then I’d just have to deal with them until he decides what he is or isn’t taking. I did get him to go through one pile of clothing – told him the charity pick-up is this week so I needed to know if any of them could be donated – but he was more interested in spending time with S13 (for a change) .


Hmmm, Mike Holmes for the inside and Charlie Dimmock and the Ground Force team (if they'd travel from the UK that is) for the yard??? I know your feelings about contractors MH, but just think what a TV crew could do for your place


Kind of like it being easier to help someone with their sitch than to take your own advice when it comes to your own?


Perfection is over-rated MH .