Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers Better to love or be loved?

I quess I am now forced to call my L tomorrow. I was so looking forward to this weekend with s20 at home and going to s17 race. we will still go. we will still have a good time. can't help but think of underlying sadness.

Oh geez WBW,I'm so sorry to read this. But please don't despair; filing does not mean the end of your marriage. You can still turn it around. Just carry on being your usual wonderful DBing self. Have fun at the race! The best you can...

willbewell,

I am not going to say I'm sorry, b/c I think this is something you knew was going to happen, maybe HAD to happen at this point.

It is time for you to move on with your life, I think. I think you are ready. I think you deserve to move on and begin the next chapter.

Of course you don't have to help the D process, but really stop and think what you want now, going forward.

Call your L if you fill you need to (I would). You need to protect yourself and put yourself in a place of empowerment.

You will be will!!! Stay strong (and it's okay to cry, when you are ready)!

So sorry to hear this willbewell. That really s*cks.

Come here and post as much as you need to. We support you.

willbewell,

I am sorry about this. I know this hurts. It is sad.

I didn't mean to imply lack of sympathy! (((((HUGS!!!!))))))

Thank you Rose,Pud and GTO for your quick replys. Needed to feel some support. I will call my L tomorrow. I guess I have to make an appointment for next week. I had told h my focus right now was school and kids. When he was here tonight he didn't say anything abbot time with kids. So far, I let him see them whenever.

I am especially worried about s20. He's coming in for his brothers race. Not to hear about D . Think I will send h an email in the AM. I do not want h to spring this on s20 this weekend. I want boys together and I want to tell them together. H can still proceed. I feel p strongly about this.

Never a good time to tell kids but I am thankful boys are close and have each other. D is just sweet. She doesn't understand. She knows dad lives in apt. Says it's no fun.

S20 will notice rings. H still had his on even as he's telling me about filing. Mine is still on. I know it's time...

asked h if someone will be knocking on my door. h said it can done discreetly or h could give me the papers and I would have to get them notorized. I am not doing option 2. he will have to have me served( talk about a crappy job!)
told h last summer I was not filing irreconcilable differences. what does that mean? just an excuse for I don't want to work on M. I want out. what am I really looking for? would it make any difference for h to say, I am filing for D because I am an adulterer? h has said sorry. I know h is sad.
let him go loveingly...

h has filed. what is different about today? nothing. I will get the kids off to school. I will go to yoga. I have some hw to do. I will pick up s20 from AP this afternoon.I may go shopping and buy that nice purse that I've been wanting. I will not despair.

^^^sounds good to me WBW!