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NQ, "Keep off the moors!" American Werewolf in London, anyone? At the very least, the Hound of the Baskervilles.

TTD, I'm not sure. I'd have to dig through my posts - but it seems the last month or so we've been going to movies and dinner pretty regularly. Sometimes I feel bad because so many people have been in limbo for so much longer than me. But, it could still be a long separation for W and I, so I'm being careful not to push anything, and to keep DBing consistently. Of course I need this training time to ensure I can keep it up. If we get back together for good and I don't, we'll fall back in to the rut that got us here before. But, I always just asked/prayed for the door to be left open, not to absolve me of the hard work yet to be done. Yikes! Was that a ramble, or what?

RL, about the cat fur, you're doomed! LOL. Seriously, I've had good luck with those sticky rollers that are like masking tape, turned sticky side out and mounted on a stick. But, for years and years I've had a lint brush made by Helmac. There's also one by Evercare - called Majik Brush. They have these fibers that are angled so they catch the cat hairs when you brush one direction on your clothes, then you can pull it off the other direction. Hard to explain, but it really works. Of course, mileage varies by cat hair and clothing type!

MH, I really envy your friendship with your W. I can barely get my H to say hello sometimes when he comes over to see S13, or at least that's how its been since he decided he was done trying at the beginning of the month. I can usually tell when OW isn't available though - he's always more chatty with me, either f2f or by text. We saw more of each other in the time that he considered our separation to be a trial - at least then he would ask me to join him for a drink or two, and we'd chat.

Oh well, no pity party - before anyone gets out the 2x4's. It was his choice but I will continue to GAL and make myself a better person. If he doesn't come back, then I'll be all the better for the next man in my life. Right now the most important man in my life is my son, and he's my pride and joy

I agree NQ, my son is the most important in my life at the mo I hope to reach that point where me and H get to that friendship that you have MH. I suppose having no OW helps. Right mow it's my H I want to hit with a 2x4, more on that on my thread after I've finished reading everyone else's
Cat hair is a pain. I can sweep the floor one day and the next day it'll be back again! It gets everywhere! I think shaving the cats might help, lol.

I've threatened to shave the cats a time or two. Would help with the fleas, too!

Been sick the last couple days, but I've been watching the updates on other topics. You guys have been out there helping others, especially the newbies. I need to get back to that. My DB forum time is being threatened by my efforts to eat, sleep, exercise, meditate, clean the house... LOL

We've missed you MH. Hope you're feeling better.

I agree with time available - sometimes 24 hours in a day just aren't enough

I love the funny convos here! Reading these threads brightens my outlook.

MH you have the best humor or humour even in your situation.

Impressed.

I agree with PM here MH, you have the best sense of humour These convos do indeed brighten your day I've missed you too MH, hope you've recovered from your sickness

Thanks everyone. one of my 180s was to try not to let my health problems get me down too much. No more woe is me pity parties!

Here's a little poem they read in my meditation class. It reminds me of MWD's advice on cheeseless tunnels.

Autobiography In Five Chapters

1) I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

2) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I'm in the same place.
But it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

3) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in... it's a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

4) I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

5) I walk down another street.

~ Portia Nelson

Excellent I'll have to copy and print this off sometime Must go to bed now, it's after 12 o'clock, lol.

I agree, a print off is in order. I might even stick it up in my cubicle at work .