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I'm letting my H go with love, and trusting God to let H experience what ever he needs to move on with his MLC journey. I actually think it will be a relief for him to be gone for a month, plus I have SO many fun things planned for myself!

RL,

The above is a copy, paste and carry around with you post! Remember this while your wacky h is away spewing at someone else. She is the one that deserves the spew, not you. My h is spewing at his ow right now too. See, that can't control it ALL of the time. Your h is no exception.

Wishing you a successful surgery and a quick recovery. As hard as it must be for a nurse to be taken care of, let others wait on you hand and foot for the next week, if you can get away with it!

My sweet friend, I will be praying that all goes well for you with your surgery. Please take care of yourself. Rest, eat, relax.

You and I have discussed why I think you are feeling as you do. I think your mind is on overload. So, it has kind of shut down your emotions. I think you are so anxious about everything, you are putting some things in place to be able to handle it all.

Please try to rest tonight. Tomorrow remember that I will be whispering in your ear. LOL! Really, leave him to walk this part of his journey.

I think it will be somewhat of a relief for you. Living with crazy wears on you. I am so happy that you have fun things planned. You deserve every bit of it.

I know, though, that it is so very hard to know that he is going there to see her. I truly think that this is going to be a rude awakening for him.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you tomorrow as well. Thank you so much for checking up on me on my thread.

I have a very good feeling that your medical experience will be a lot better than your h's will be in Russia!

Wishing you a smooth procedure and a great outcome tomorrow. Take good care of yourself, and just let go of H - odds are excellent that this trip will be his wake-up call. And if it isn't? Well, you never know what handsome Brit might follow you home

Well it's 3 am, so I'm awake. It's a good time to reflect and pray. Wish I wouldn't wake up at this time EVERY morning though.

RL "I'm letting my H go with love, and trusting God to let H experience what ever he needs to move on with his MLC journey. I actually think it will be a relief for him to be gone for a month, plus I have SO many fun things planned for myself! "

NLT "The above is a copy, paste and carry around with you post! Remember this while your wacky h is away spewing at someone else. She is the one that deserves the spew, not you. My h is spewing at his ow right now too. See, that can't control it ALL of the time. Your h is no exception. "

WHAT! MLCers continue to spew at their OW? On my last thread I was wondering whether MLCers wake up from their fog while with their OW, or if they ignore the OW while they are speaking, walk past them as if they do not see them, etc, like they do to us. 

Thanks for sharing this NLT ! My H is not a constant spewer, but feeling ill, irritated, tired, brings it on. And he feels ill, irritated and tired a lot lately.  The thought of the Russian being the one receiving those unjustified tongue lashings makes me grin from ear to ear. 

Thanks for your support, prayers, and whispers uRw! I will remember you telling me to be light, carefree and happy while the cuckoo flys around the room, thanks! One of my fun planned things is meeting you! Something to look forward to!

Thanks SweetRed! I bet you're right, my surgical experience will be loads better than H's! Did you know he plans to have a tooth pulled while he's there, and to pay the dentist with vodka!!?? Holy cow!

Ellie a handsome Brit might just fit the bill to wile away those lonely hours! Thanks for your good wishes for my surgery and that this trip will be H's wake up call.  

I shall be thoroughly spoiled over the next few days. My dear MIL brought me a refrigerator full of food so I would not have to cook. 

I'm still feeling "comfortably numb" although there's only 90 minutes to go until I tell H see ya, and set him free with love. I had anticipated being an emotional wreck.  uR, brain shutdown can be a wonderful thing!

hey hi Linda-

i'm thinking you're back home and on the mend as we speak. my memory for details is shot to heck (exact times, etc.) - sorry man...

how did it go- the leave-taking?

your brain fog is most definitely your own self letting you "off the hook" - i always want to fall asleep waiting for the dentist (i hate the dentist) - it's saving ourselves i think.

you're on my mind- i'm busy sending over some good vibes for your brain fog & eye op. thank good ness for your nice mil - thanks for thinking of me. it's awful seeing your mom become (and want to become) your kid. i don't even have kids- i surely do not want to be solely responsible for this scrappy & critical woman. when she's nice- it's sooooo wierd and feels soooooo contrived - it's hard now to believe it.

i guess that's the payback for being too hard on people- when you're finally nice- they have trouble believing it. mind you- it doesn't peep out that often- too little too late mostly i'd think...

it's amazing what can be accomplish3d these days with medical profession. i always have to admit (tho i pretty much do not like doctors - along with everyone else that "push people around" (cops come to mind) - that they do serve a purpose and accomplish a job the rest of us cannot do - and need - alot.. no wonder they consider themselves "GODS" - they kind of are- miracles upon demand sometimes - oh well...

i always wonder how people lived 150 years ago- not so very long- when there were no options pretty much for many many things- i like "the idea" of the olden days and family values, etc.

BUT- I HAVE TO be realistic and always think how sunk i'd be living on the prairie without allll my eyeglasses (which i've come to need last ten or so yrs) and so on- (not to mention growing my own food !!! cripes... and making my own soap !! and alllll that junk. we'd starve if it depended on my crops - no kidding. and shooting food- i couldn't hit a barn- it's a pitiful thing when i stop and think about "olden days".

sewing must have been a b!tch for those women- i can see their husbands and families going around with clothing on they made with giant icky stitches hanging out- and things they couldn't see to remedy- looking like holy he!! (i'm a sewer) - sometimes i can't even see to do a hem on dark fabric-

well, can when i find the right magnifying glass or glasses-

anyway- sooooo many things in life and our eyes are the window to the world - so yay for modern technology

okay- i'm outta here- as usual - determined to accomplish something useful today- maybe i can get the house tidied up- and you guys can just come here if you want. i've been off the cooking and entertaining thing for a few years (what- hard to entertain in the misery mode???) but probably can figure out something acceptible to eat. oh yeah- and definitely have to overlook the messy garden, etc. - i don't even pretend to have a handle on things here-

but since our goal is just to meet up and have a laugh- i'm thinking you guys won't be concentrating on my housekeeping skills...

anyway- best of luck and hopefully all is over and well as you read this-

xxo

Good morning Linda



Thinking of you and hoping for all the best.

Take care.

Hope all went well.

Of course you probably can't read this if your eyes arent workings...... So i will just send

(((((((HUGS))))))))

(((((hugs))))) from me too!!

Magic!

Just want to let everyone know that all went well with Rosa's surgery. She is home and resting.