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OK I understand what you are saying I'll not ask them anything when they come back from visiting with their father. Unless they say anything on their own.

Thanks it will be hard every weekend cause we had agreed that he will have our boys on the weekends.

I bet it's hard, but make the most of the "me time" you get and keep yourself active. It'll make the time go faster and you'll feel better if you've got something to do.

My H comes round to the house for a few hours once a week. At the moment that is the extent of his seeing our son. He can't have him stay over as H is currently living in the spare room of a couple of his friends. I try to make myself scarce when eh's there but it's my home so it's not easy.

Well H came and got my boys tonight and I won't see them again until Friday night. I just hope H gets them to school on time tomorrow and Friday morning. Its going to be a very lonely couple of days. But at lease I will be at work I'll just have to come up with plans for tonight and tomorrow night so that way I won't be sitting here and letting my mind roam around.

Definitely keep yourself busy with something - a good book, a movie or tv show. I found that a night at the local pool - one with a hot tub as an added bonus - and a glass of wine helped keep me relaxed. Should have hit the pool more often when S13 was away at camp in July.

Let H do the worrying about the school timings. He's got to learn to do it. Do the school know that you have split? I called my son's school today to tell them and got told they needed to see the custody agreement. H and I haven't sorted that out on paper yet so now I've got to go into the school and discuss the arrangements with them. I may have to push H to sign an agreement just to keep the school happy.

Take care of yourself and stay strong.

When I registered the boys for school I did tell them that their father had moved out and we are just separated as of right now and they told me to keep them updated on our situation they haven't asked for any separation paper from me. But they have all of H info if they need to get a hold of him. And for tonight I'm going to watch a television show and then I'll figure something to do tomorrow night. And OK about letting H worry about getting the boys to school on time.

No one ever died from being late to school. Lol!!
Don't stress. Not your job to make sure h is doing his job.
Enjoy the time on your own. I found it wonderful to only be responsible for me. Have Ice cream for supper and watch chick flicks. Indulge yourself. You deserve it

If the kids like going to school, I'm sure they'll make sure he gets them there on time. When my son was younger - he's not so thrilled about school nowadays - there were times that I'd have to go into work late just to take him to school when the school buses weren't running due to snow. And he'd be ready to go to the bus when I left for work, usually nearly an hour earlier than the bus even arrived.

Have you got any hobbies, or maybe one you'd like to try. A night when you don't have the kids would be a good time to try something like that. And as an added bonus that would come up GALing as well LOL.

Hi K, somehow I managed to miss this new thread of yours So sorry I've not been posting (((hugs))). Anyway I'm back with you now

Very true. I actually did have chocolate ice cream for dinner last night and it was super good. I also had some ixw cream for dinner again tonight so that will be all for this weekend I can't pur all the weight back on after working so hard to loose those 41 pounds a year ago. I'll be hitting the workout routines this weekend with my boys. Running will in my case joging around the high school track .