Regardless of this news, I still have no plans on initiating anymore contact. It would seem pointless anyways...
I can't say I've been the best example at this, but recently one of my best things I thought of was to say what I wanted to say out loud, and imagine W standing there, and think how she would take it. If it sounded right coming out of my mouth, I would then wait at least an hour before calling/texting.
If it STILL sounded right, then I would say it. I don't always do this, but there are probably 50 times now that I didn't say something that I normally would have said or texted.
Your idea is smart to really think a response out first. Wish I had done this a few times before responding. Anyways, I will not have to be too concerned about this as my resolve to not contact remains strong. What helps me in this is the fact nothing much I have to say has an effect on the sitch. I am curious though (not expecting) how long she will wait before iniating convo. As I was told before by ttd and cadet she would if I went silent and sure enough she did...And no I do not EXPECT anything to be positive towards our sitch even is she does make contact...
Journaling not obsessing here....Days are getting better and go much longer as time passes to overcome the emotions...Wanted to note also that I have heard from some people the fact my WAW is now going on 2 weeks silence regarding her last email of getting back to me on the matter of filing for divorce speaks volumes. That her silence is an answer. I beginning to wonder also that if indeed she is feeling very guilty as might very well be the case to her leaving and the way she did it, how that might fit into the grand scheme of things. Not obsessing but listening with curiosity what some are saying outside of DB site. Any thoughts from the pro's here? And does anyone have a comparable sitch?
lol Cadet and KP I didn't comment on this post because I feel like I've run out of things to say to you now 2old and also I was feeling very negative about my own sitch earlier. Just been on the phone for an hour with a very good friend, now going to catch up with my posts on here
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
lol 2old, glad to see you've still got a sense of humour
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
2old I've not seen you on here for a while, is everything ok? Are you too busy GALing to come on here? It would be nice if we got some positive posts from you not just when you've not heard from W for a while
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
so, sounds like u miss me...lol....no i'm ok ttd...might have landed a job 2 hours north of my D's family here in north carolina. Will know for certain friday. And now I have been contacted by another potential employer here locally. Soooo, been busy for sure. At the moment also I have gone completely dark and n/c with my WAW with no plans to make contact even on her bday. I feel the way it was left by her I am the one who should be contacted. So 3 weeks n/c and all is well. Truthfully, I have been feeling better about things also. We did however, have a sad occurance over the weekend where my D lost her baby (miscarriage) but, was only 4 weeks and as told this is a common occurence sad but common. No long term effects from this either. So D and sil are okay to try again later. My waw heard about this from her D and waw texted my D to tell her how sorry she was. My D however did not respond as my waw is not exactly one of her favs right now..and yes I am staying out of that one...If wife and i were to ever reconcile (and that is doubtful) it would be very difficult for my D to accept her back. She has made that very clear to me....
