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Whatisis,

Oh how much I'm trying to do this. I am a victim, I was abused, I didn't deserve it. Her anger is hers now, I will not condone it. I will not wallow in it. I will embrace it. Bring it to me and let it remold me to the person I want to be. I'm healing. My mind is not screaming right now. I know it can be but that is only if I allow it. God has me in his hands and I'll take comfort in his love and strength.

Release it! After a brief discussion with a pastor friend he told me it still tortures and pains me so much because when we marry two become one. And that I havent fully releasd it into God's hands. Detatch and let them go. Let God heal you.

I know words that sounds so easy. When my D was fighting for her life that night in hospital after her horrific accident, i knew what ever happened it was in God's hands that there was nothing i could do but pray.

The divorce has been harder for me than that night. And I can see why. Inever let go to God. I'm afraid to let him go completely. TRUST. I have to trust that God is bigger than any man in my life.

It really helped me tonite to reach out and accept what my friend was telling me. Cry say goodbye. be loving, hand them over as if handing a new born over to it's mother. Release with love and not hate.

Have faith stay strong in your God. My D hd traumatic brain injury along with spinal cord injury...she has completely healed from brain injury! That is what I prayed for...to have her back..her spirit her soul her essence of the amazing child of God.

It's a long journey through divorce...we can do this hold on tight!!

L4MD,

I am trying to. I haven't been honest with myself. I'm not okay, and I'm honestly tired of telling people that I am. I'm torn and you're right I feel as though I am ripped in half, I was one with her. I haven't released her. I want to but God I miss her.

I've been praying a new prayer, one that focuses on forgiveness.
I'm going to continue to pray this and memorize it.

Can anyone tell me if my xW decides to move after we just enrolled our children into school, neither of us has primary residence. Can she take them out of school move in with OM and change schools without my consent?

I don't believe so. What were the terms of your D?

Not divorced yet. Just curious. Thank you Mr. Bond

Then get legal representation and start drafting an agreement. You don't want her to just take the kids before anything legal has taken place.

I honestly think she is waiting till we are divorced. Which would make me waste a lot of money and time moving to be closer to my kids.

Either way, YOU have to be the one to dictate the terms. If you don't, you'll be amazed at what your W will try to get away with.

I am doing what I can. I cannot afford a lawyer. I know what she'll try to get away with because I've called her out on it. I am just worried that she will do it because "she's their mother". It is convoluted whose situation isn't, right?

Thank you for taking the time to reply Bond