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Thanks for letting me know how you feel Snodderly. I really appreciate it. I'm sorry for offending you, and hope someday you will help me again.

"Did it ever occur to you, Sweet Red, that maybe he really did NOT have that much of a problem with you, and that a lot of his blame was just that evil MLC rewriting they to to justify their actions?"

RL, you're right. In all honesty, I know most of this isn't about me, but I'm the type to figure out my part in something and try to fix it.

And when this is what you keep hearing, you start to think maybe it's true.

But you're right. I know this isn't really about me. I have my own stuff to work on, so I don't need to borrow issues from him.

Think of your decision to try physical touch with H as a science experiment. Do X, see what happens. As difficult as it is, try not to have any expectations of what he'll do because we all know MLC makes them do some crazy things!

Just getting caught up on this thread and wanted to send everyone a hug.....this was posted on an energy healer's FB page yesterday and I kept it

"Emotions are running high today for everyone. It is time to spend some time in solitude. I urge you not to waste tonight blocking your feelings with food, internet or TV. Even for five minutes, allow yourself to honour how you feel. Uncover your fears and misgivings. Once they have been given time to surface, the healing process can begin."

Hope we all have a good day

hey hi-

ophhhhh geeez - i thought you were going for the "brass ring" here. like - courage cdentral. i mean - you k now - uh hem - doin "it". crazy me- where i get my notions who the heck knows.?????

i only can do the back thing becaue much like a big STINNKIN dog-my h is a sap for a scratch. thank God he doesn't completely just spin around and stick his butt on me like my sister's (very charming - but....) dog. oh man-

anyway- excuse me my dear. got the wrong end of that stick did i.

OHHHHHHH LINDA - YOU ARE IN VERY GOOD COMPANY HERE:



i'm speaking BOUT ME = CAN YOU GUESS. YOU crack me up- THO. WE ARE pathetic kind of- but soooo the product of our times aren't we??? happy ever after - oh well- we are who we are - rite???

it's the darn age thing also- you have alot in common with me- or me with you-whaterer. you made me laugh and now ic an't remember what i came here to say.

maybe it will come to me.




i like this quite alot too- i hope you could be right - maybe. how the he!1 does one ever know????? patience has never been my best feature. got some with needlework- not alot with people unfortunately. well, that's sure changing in life. is it a "better" me? i hopeso, ???

thanks for your insights about the "loving enough to let go" - i can allow him space to roam thru his tunnel. funny - same result i guess in the mlc- but my h was a total success at what he wanted- did the lawyer thing- saved up a bunch of money- quit when he wanted to pretty much- blah blah blah.

what the heck he wants - idk. toomuch for any normal life i think-

funny thing- the trip to russia may not be so terrible. well, it really is terrible - but i keep thinking if my damn h would just go, f'ing go and live with ow or whatever he things is gonna make him experience non-stop fun life- he'd at least figure out somewhere along the line she's not non-stop fun either- no person alive is.

BUT THIS WAY- this having her there- me here - stopping by when he feels like her- me, this $hit- WELL, LINDA IT COULD GO ON FOREVER. if he never ever has to stay anyuwhere long enough to feel the mundane sameness of it- who is to say he would ever ever ever snap out of his insanity? i wonder honestly- if this is just what he wants from his life- and then of course, that means i'm out of the mix at some point. i think i'd like more than this- l/4 time shared life. soooo pitiful- so, ya wanna arm wrestle for the queen of pathetic or what???

he doles it all out to himself bit by bit- why would he ever tire of her???

i can get the not delivering ultimatum thing-

I LIKE QUITE ALOT the grocery storeline. i don't ever seem to be somewhere meeting new men- who knows tho? maybe it's true that "love finds you" - like to hope on that one. if that's got to be the ultimate solution- wonder whose love tho?

oh geeez - i know- the axes. can you tell i've developed a serioyusl suspicious side???/ you're welcome anywhere anyway- home or otherwise. oh man- it didn't even occur to me that i need3d to inspect the car too !!!

wah wah. thanks for response. sometimes it helps to have someone point out the holes in one's thoughts. it's what i like about saying it outloud to someone else- rather than holding it in.

i think that's the bulk of my h's problems and insanity-hekeeps it in his head - his feelings - God forbid he should have them , much less share them- and inside that brain- they get distorted and wierd , but still apparently sound okay to him.

GEEEEZ =- i'd rather be me, sharing too much maybe - but hey- no one is gonna give me a medal for suffering silently and going down nuts. (are they???)

i'd better go serioyusl pack a bit so i'm not miser5able wed. nite after watching kids all day and THEN have to pack.

i have mixed emotions. every single time i leave here or he leaves there- no kidding - i wonder if it's the last time we ever see each other

idk why- just feels that way -

i'm soooo tired of the threat hanging over my head - sometimes i think it'd force my hand a be a relief to just be forced to be done.

courage-less old me huh?

xxoo

If you would please allow me, I'd like to interject a bit here in regards to the joke about Ms. Snodderly and MLC High.

Snodderly, you are held in such high regard that we all welcome your comments and insights. Perhaps Linda's attempt to joke around fell a bit flat. However, her intent was meant to be funny and affectionate toward you.

When I first saw the joke, I thought to myself..."Linda is a teacher's pet who is a bit afraid to rock the boat and playing a bit too nice. If it were me, I'd be sent to the principal's office at MLC High to face Ms. Snodderly!"

In actual real life, I WAS sent to the princiapl's office about 3 times for some good natured hijinks. Hey...it was youthful indiscretion.

Linda, write this on the blackboard 100 times:

I love Ms. Snodderly
I love Ms. Snodderly
I love Ms. Snodderly
I love Ms. Snodderly

...or a dry erase board...or smart board...whatever new fangled thingys that are used in schools nowadays.

That's the one thing I hate about the written communication vs verbal. It's just difficult sometimes to interpret tone and meaning. Big reason why I don't do text or emails with H either for anything major. Plus if I do go off my rocker, and least there isn't a paper trail. And let's be honest, he doesn't remember half of what I say anyway. Or wait..he doesn't remember anything I say and only half of my dance moves. Hmmm...whatever...you get the idea. Swiss cheese and tunnels.

I worry about how I come across on this boards. I know I can be teasing and down right silly, but I doubt every reader takes me the same way. I am sure there are a lot who think I'm a complete nut job. And I'm good with that.

Linda I know you're a complete sweetheart and would never intentionally hurt a sole. Sorry this one bombed, but so does Jay Leno every night

Snodderly you are one of the most amazing people I have come across through this board--through out my life actually. Your key insights and knowledge has been instrumental in getting me to where I am now. I often just read the board by reading your posts only. Btw I found the original "egg" post the other day, or perhaps a soon after retelling. Gets me every time.

hey Snodderly, you and I go back a long ways. You were so instrumental in my journey and I could never thank you enough. Your kindness always to me and my son will never be forgotten.

You are our wise, calming, wonderful mentor.

I have gotten to know our Rosa and I know she is so very upset to think that she offended you in any way. She is a kind soul, with such a huge heart and I know she would never intentionally hurt you.

It is hard to interpret the written word, its true.

And sometimes the pressure of the situation gets to us and we get silly sometimes. Just a way to let off steam.

She holds you in such high regard, as do we all.

Just wanted you to know you are well loved, respected and held in high esteem.

Thank you all for ypur kindness in trying to smooth things over. All of our hearts are regularly ripped out by the person we love the most, so we all know what real pain is. I would never make someone feel like that on purpose, but having done it inadvertantly is just as bad. I think I need to do what you suggested, Rose, and spend some time in solitude.  Lots to think about Raine, Rose, uR, Wonka, Nero, I do love you guys. Thanks. 

Snodderly and Linda, let's get this thing fixed and made right. Come on over to Wonka's tiki-hut and have a mini-peace conference. We're all good friends and we're smart. Can't allow a small bump to get in the way of our journey together.