I would like to move on sooner, and I hope she finds a place this fall. She is an accountant and wants to make sure she has a place to live during tax season.
2 years. I can only imagine how tough that was. I am going on 1 year of this nonsense and I am not looking forward to the next 6 months.
I am a little depressed after the meeting with my L. No big issues, but she reminded me just how long this process is going to be.
She also did not think the custody agreement that my W was asking for was reasonable. Her points were very valid, and she is the expert. I told her to do what she thought was best.
I expressed my concerns about the conflict her changes would cause and she reminded me "That is why you have a L". I just need to take her advice and let the process move forward.
Took my girls camping for the weekend. My W shows up at around 5pm on Sunday and leaves at around 7pm. I get home to see all her pictures posted on facebook, making it look like she had a great time camping with her girls. Her whole life is a lie.
I don't know why, but this really made me angry. at least I had the self control to avoid posting a nasty comment. I am just stewing.
She has not taken a trip or vacation with the girls in almost a year. In that same time period, she has gone to haiti by herself twice and has 2 more trips scheduled. Yet, for all the world to see, she is still the good Mom.
I really need to. But, I just feel so overwhelmed with anger tonight.
I think about how I have been treated the last year and the D I still have to go through . I think about the spousal support I have to pay and the child custody arrangements I have to deal with.
I feel so used, mistreated and lied to. And to top it all off, I still have to live with her and see her everyday for at least 6 more months. All the while the stupid smart phone keeps beeping and she still giggles like a school girls whenever one of these boys calls.
Next week, I get to be a single parent while she runs off to Haiti again for another weeks vacation. I haven't had a vacation without kids in 14 years.
Yes, you are right, I need to let it go. I really need to let it go. I just wish I knew how.
I’m with you on this, I seethe and anger about the same things, I see and hear the same as you (only I probably seen more) I asked W to move out she either laughs or swears at me.
Anyway I’m practicing what people on here and people at home have told me, just leave her alone, Ignore here antics, get on with life, no matter how annoying, irritating or sick it gets.
We together can only do the best for us and our kids, fix ourselves up and maintain our sanity in readiness for the next phase of our lives.
I get it.. and in times like this.. it's extremely hard to see the glass half full.
But instead of seeing it as W leaving her kids.. look at it as awesome one on one time with them.
And even though it hurts, pray that your kids DO see their mom in a good light. They will be smart enough to see the truth, but pray that the truth will be something positive in regards to her.. not negative
... not because she necessarily deserves it, but because THEY DO.
You ask how? You just turn in over to God... over and over. There were/are times that I just prayed. It's not like you pray once and it's gone forever....
For me - it was a constant process. The angrier I got, the more I prayed.
IMO - Start there. The more you work at it and the more you turn it over.. the easier it gets. And you will start noticing more peace in your heart.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
I think what really bothered me is that she skips all the stress and just has fun. I had to get them ready, setup camp, put them to bed, organize the meals, pay for the camping, etc....
She pops in, has dinner, laughs and plays with them for an hour and then skips town and posts pictures of her wonderful weekend. They are so happy to see her. I get arguing and fighting. She gets adoration and love.
Thank goodness for my MIL who is always there for me and camped the whole weekend with us.
//For me - it was a constant process. The angrier I got, the more I prayed//
So true. I have been told that the source of anger is a lack of faith. That we do not truly believe that God loves us and has promised to work all things for our good. Thank you for reminding me. Apparently, I need to be reminded often.
Did I forget to mention that it rained all morning while we packed up? I am sure my W woke up in a quite, child free house after sleeping in without a care in the world.
