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I understand that, but it seems to me that it is MORE stress-provoking to just ignore him, than to give a simple answer such as "I've looked but I can't know what I can afford or how I can get into a place until we have the financials sorted out".

Btw, you HAVE at least been looking, haven't you? Knowledge is power.

Ugh I have such a headache. I feel like my head is going to explode.

Good counseling session today. Got a lot of stuff out. C told me I'm doing well. And to keep at it. He seems to think something is gonna happen and soon. I hope so and I hope it's in my benefit.

WH

And PS - don't eat any food that H has prepared for you. I actually got worried, when you said you were sick and he told the kids to leave you alone and brought you something, that maybe he had poisoned it.

Stranger things have happened.

YIKES!

Actually, I have had the same thoughts run across my head, KML. I never eat what H has made. Never. Number one, I don't trust him. And number two, I don't like his cooking, and I never really have. That's why I have always done the cooking. He makes a lot of meat (ie hamburger, brats, hot dogs), and while I am not vegetarian, per se, I prefer vegetarian dishes. I have been trying to make a lot more "whole" foods like fresh chicken breast, vegetables and fruits and less processed stuff. I feel better when I eat like that and I feel better when my kids eat like that.

H did joke at one point when I offered him some food that maybe I poisoned it. Hmmm...perhaps more projection?

I was sick with sinus stuff. I felt horrible. Stuffy, achy, hot then cold. I get that at the change of seasons. I think it might be hay fever?? But S wasn't feeling well, then I got it and D got a touch of it. It only lasted a day or two. I started drinking lots of water and eating garlic. That always seems to help me get better sooner.

I do still have a headache. I took some Aleve, but it didn't seem to help. I am sure it's stress (gee, wonder why?). H thrives on this stress. I hate it, but I am trying to muddle through it.

WH

So my attorney has a plan. I'm afraid to even talk about it. H will freak out when he discovers it. I am hoping it will work out. I am hoping the judge will force H into some kind of action. H is so determined to get everything his way. He has no consideration for anyone else.

H took affront to my attorney calling OW his fiancee. He said it is a personal and moral affront and it infringes on her personal liberty. : /

Wow. Just wow.

WH

ROFLMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree - it IS a personal and moral affront - because it's TOTALLY an EMBARRASSMENT to her that she's engaged to this man. But hey, that was her choice! And she's announcing it on Facebook for cripes sake!

And how does it infringe on her personal liberty to call her his fiancee???????

This Fruit is one Loop short.

Lol KML!

He is cheese and crackers all right. Pure unadulterated nuts.

My attorney is not even responding to H's letter. I just rolled my eyes and shook my head when I read it. It makes no sense. H is really starting to lose it.

He told ms a few months ago when I took the bank statements to work to make copies that taking those statements out of the house was an infringement on his rights and personal liberty. I said can't you just see the statements online? I didn't deny him access I just made a copy. I didn't change the password and lock him out of the checking account like he did to me.

I'm staying the heck out of dodge tonight. Trying to get through the next 3 hours as painless as possible. D and H are already at each other's throats. S was outside mowing the grass while H was in the house watching TV. Hmmmm...

My attorney isn't worried. H looks and acts so confident. He is positive things are going to go his way. Is he really that delusional or is he planning some sneak attack on my character? Not that I have done anything wrong, but H will stop at nothing.

WH

Just saw this KML. Yes I have been looking. Almost every day. Rent is so expensive and with the dog...

I want to be close to the kids' schools so they can walk to school, but things are more affordable on the other end of town. Not within walking distance. The cheaper apartments are so tiny. It's over $1200 a month to rent a decent sized 3 bedroom place. Most places want 2-3 months down, security deposit and pet deposit. I don't blame them. It is risky to take on renters. But I also have moving expenses and start up costs. I want to live as cheaply as possible, but I also want to be a bit comfortable. I want the kids to feel like my place is home.

In other news, I was on the phone tonight with a mutual friend of mine and H's. She's known H for over 25 years or so. She tells me H sent her a text message stating how he can't believe that after all their years of friendship she would turn her back on him and listen to my "half truths" and take my side. She said what the heck is he talking about? He never calls me and I told him long ago what I thought him and that he needs to do right by you.

I really don't appreciate being called a liar. Especially by someone who is a pathological liar.

WH

What? Seriously? Who would you rather call you a liar then? Somebody who has integrity and is beyond reproach? Or...?

You are doing fine. Your L has a plan. The only thing left is to wait for the "pop". Try not to be surprised at things that happen along the way to the bottom. Just hope he actually hits bottom so you can move on with the business of being parents. Sadly, I don't think that's how it's going to be for a while. I think it's going to be more cloudy with a chance of nuts for a while.

Try to relax. The stress is not going to help. Worrying about it at this point won't help. But it will help to be on your toes and your best behavior and to lay low for a while.

I'll start getting the popcorn ready for the coming show...

AJ