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Yep, sounds like a teen to me. Perhaps some of her changes, issues seem magnified due to the other stuff going on but otherwise, she is finding her way. This isn't going to end overnight. Hang in there.

kat

"Patient".....My DD has not slept in my home in 6 weeks, my DS has only twice during that period of time. I now feel I'm losing my son too, if for no other reason than lack of contact (C says DS is following along with decisions/actions of older DD, like the little brother he is).

Something must change or this will become the new normal.

Perhaps you ought to get an enforceable custody agreement. There is no need to fight with XW or involve the kids. It is a legal matter. Allow the courts and lawyers to handle it. My guess is that little will change as long as you allow XW to do whatever she wants to do.

Any court action (ie custody agreement enforcement) will trigger response by X who has made clear she will demand a full psyc evaluation of all parties involved. Two L's and a C have commented this is the first thing a court will require anyway.

DD is having a teenager fit. The tail is wagging the dog. I am trying to make choices that are the least traumatic for the kids involved.

One more C session scheduled.

Time will tell.

just because she asks for a psych eval doesn't mean it will be granted and so what if it is?

let the psychiatric tests PROVE that you are sane and she is nutty

Sleeper,
I think you're wise to work w. counselor but perhaps you should consider the legal side as well. It sounds as if you need an enforceable agreement.

Otherwise you're setting off on rocky territory w/a new marriage.

Do you have a date set for wedding?

We have had a marriage date (June 9) for about 9 months. I find it interesting this all happened about 8 weeks prior to the wedding (someone trying to interfere, Or just shrewd timing to get the children for herself?) We are going forward with the wedding.

Attempting major summary:

Kid's end of school year ceremonies today, both X and fiancé present. Called immediately afterward (she had both kids so I answered) immediately began diatribe about fiancé being "disrespectful" to DD. Examples: walking in front of DD, not paying attention when DD was on stage (I kid you not). I pointed out fiancé brought FLOWERS for DD and gave them to DD.

I have concluded the entire issue is X's jealousy of fiancé.

I'm a guy, don't get it.

Ladies input would be appreciated.

AGREED!

I think she never thought you would be with anyone else. Possibly just sitting around pining for her the rest of her life. I think it throws the ex for a real loop to see you happy again and with someone else to boot.

I am sorry that all of her insecurities are causing so much pain to so many. Perhaps things arent so great in her new marriage as she is so focused on hurting you.

kat