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Relax.

Chillax! Dating isn't the way it used to be.

GG he text you instead of calling? And? Yeap RELAX texting is the norm now a days. Have a blast

Okay, thanks everyone! Dave is really a terrific guy and I'm excited to see him again. We have a lot in common (he golfs, hikes, snow shoes, works out, etc.). This always happens to me. I look for any kind of reason to back out; except this time I don't want to.

Man L is stepping up and pursuing. I think we're going to the Boulder County Fair tomorrow to listen to music.

Wii,
Man J was the one who said we weren't a match after two dates, but I thought he was worth another try. We went hiking and had a great time. BUT, he ended up being scary to me in many ways. I cooked him dinner for his birthday last Monday and I booted him out by dessert! The tone of voice he used with me was condescending and aggressive. Not to mention he used way too much profanity and talked about sex every other minute. It was too much for a fourth date.

Whew, Lynn, how did you get from zero to 60 in one day? Must be all that dancing to 80s music. BTW, did you know that KOSI is having an all 80s weekend?

I think it's just helpful to know that we all carry our baggage and have tendencies to put the cart before the horse. I read an article about Katie Couric last night at my hair salon, and she commented that we ALL have baggage. The real question is, "Is it manageable, and will it fit in the overhead bin?" LOL.

I know I told you that my XH is a morning person, and the girls and I are all night owls. He and I lived a very peaceful existence when we lived together. We both understood that we needed that alone time to recharge. Of course, it wasn't always true. Sometimes he slept in (obvious reasons) and sometimes I went to bed early (same). It worked out fine.

I'm chilling myself. I got in a car accident yesterday in the parking lot after dropping D16 off at camp. It was the other lady's fault, and she's also the mother of a special needs kid there and very nice. I hope we can keep this straight forward and easy. I have a witness who offered to come forward, but I hope I don't have to call her. It's just such a busy month and I really don't have extra bandwidth to devote to this crap. Then there's the added inconvenience of getting rides to and from the body shop, plus all the other busy stuff that happens when school starts.

On top of that, I think I'm getting what I have been praying for over the last 3 years. I'm getting so much business that it's now becoming a little stressful trying to project manage and keep things moving and on schedule. I had a big sales meeting yesterday afternoon, and managed to walk out of there with not only the nice order I was hoping to get, but the possibility of more than tripling the business with this client next fiscal year. I truly am doing the happy dance. I just can't dance too long.

D19 is heading back to school on Wednesday. I finally got my best girl back. She's been hanging out with me a whole lot over the past few days, and it reminds me that this is the girl I love so much. I told her that her dad and I are looking forward to missing her for awhile. She laughed and said she understands and feels the same way. I ran an errand this morning and returned home to find her mowing the lawn.

It's all good here.

Tonight, Sweet Stuff is going to church with me and D16 and then we're off to the movies. She's pretty happy about that and keeps signing to go now. She's not the most patient person on the planet, LOL.

Chillax everyone!

Betsey

OK, I know you've all missed my Dating Profile Gems so here's a batch I've had hidden away. Enjoy!

I have one child who is fourteen that will not be meeting you.
Very flexible & patient. Just don’t push me to my limit, coz if you do, you will feel my absence.
I'm always told "don't ever change - ur too dam fun!"
I am adaptable and don't mind a constructive discussion without holding any grouches..
I also found the meaning of life...just forgot where I put it.
We have "baggage" large enough to fit in our shaving kit, exes shelved in drawers with key thrown away.
My goals is what ever comes my way.
I can be a good hearted woman I suppose, AND rip your heart out with one single stroke whilst still leaving you standing!
I would really like to find a man close to my bone marrow compatibility
I like IKEA furniture
I am good at stacking dishes.
Not really sure why I am here because I don't really have time, but I will see.
I can wash a car
I have a thing for Kombucha

Thanks for the update Betsey. It's nice to hear you're getting a lot of business, still seeing SS, were not smushed up in the fender bender, and that you sound so happy

Love the dating profiles whatisis. I've always enjoyed being with people who can carry on a constructive discussion without holding any grouches.

Linda,

Thanks for the kind words!

My happiness in regards to that accident was short lived. Turns out, the lady changed her story with the insurance company, and they've now decided that I'm at fault 20%. They haven't even seen my vehicle, which she T-boned. So a fight is about to ensue. Sigh. I really don't need this.

I wasn't able to see Sweet Stuff this past weekend. He wasn't feeling well. We have a "date" set up for tomorrow, though. Things are going to be very hectic for me for the next 3 weeks, especially when D16 heads back to school on the 19th. I really need to get back to working out to relieve some stress. It's going to get worse before it gets better.

I have another appointment with a local 911 client on Thursday, so hopefully that will be a good new project to think about.

D19 is leaving for NY tomorrow, and I find myself a little choked up. We're getting along much better lately, and I'm going to miss her. She started coming back up to my room when she gets home from work and just wants to talk. Wish it had been this way all along.

Her dad is in a mode lately, though. He's been really snippy lately and who knows why? I'm going to address it with him later today, as he started in on me at our family dinner last night, getting all worked up about something I had done at least 15 years ago. It was inappropriate and out of character, so I'm not sure what's going on with him. Anyway, whatever gremlins are floating around, I would like them to float away. It is just not good timing...

Later, folks--

Betsey

p.s. Lynn, what's the latest? BA?

From my perspective, I'm thinking that after finally meeting SS in person, Mr. Wonderful has a bug in his ear over him. Doncha think I'm warm here, eh?

I was thinking the same thing.