It's depressing that "co-parenting" is even a word. Children ARE resilient, but I think too many people use that as an excuse to absolve themselves or others of responsibilities, don't you agree?
From reading everything you're posting about your D, you're doing a great job, PS.
As far as a BF test, from what I understand, the best method is still using calipers. I think your GP can do it, hopefully PM will chime in with some other solutions. I'm glad you're not resting on your laurels! Keep setting new goals!
Calipers are an easy way to track progress at home. You can purchase Accumeasure calipers from Amazon for less than $10, and that's what I recommend.
The bf measuring scales are more expensive and can be very finicky (as well as inaccurate for various reasons), though they're usually ballpark good. To get a true test of bf, there are more accurate ways than calipers or scales, but Accumeasure will get you pretty close and - here's the most important part - if your goal is to lose fat, you know you're making progress as long as the measurement you take keeps getting smaller. This is just proof that you're progressing in the right direction.
I believe a set of instructions on how to use the calipers comes with those calipers, but I can post pretty simple instructions (stand straight and pinch 1" above the iliac crest - repeat weekly or biweekly).
Note: another good indicator is simply how your clothes fit, which you two have already commented about having success on.
Let me know if you have further questions.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
oh... big grown up thoughts coming from such a little girl. You've done so amazing with D3 thus far, I know you will get her through this.
You guys are inspiring. Maybe the "extraordinary" thing I should do for myself... or a new Spin inspired goal will be to sweat a little more!
Have a great day Spin... keep on keeping on!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
Advice from my female chinese friend who owns the local restaurant here in town
"She come back" "Yes she come back....you good" "Left you too nice" "She and other man will no more and she come back" "No worry" "You too good" "you nice looking you have job you nice" "Happens very much- person leaves not work out and want to come back....but other person move on"
THE CHINESE ROCK
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
I need to ride a John Deer tractor down the freeway!!!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
I guess you never got that message in the fortune cookie!
Im having issues with the whole "co-parenting" thing. It not really co-parenting when she is setting all the rules. My children are non verbal so I am so curious about what they think about this whole situation. When I do see them they are soo happy and we laugh alot.
Congrats of getting back in shape. Your doing great!
H 37 WAW 32 S 4 (Autistic) S 2 Together 11 years Married 6 Bombshell Dec 1 2012 House sold, flying solo June 1 2013.
How does one NOT have a problem with the co-parenting thing? I had to hug D3 goodbye for 3 days yesterday AM before it was "Mommies turn".
I hid it PRETTY well....I lost it as soon as I got in the car. I mean LOST IT!
Its called LOVE
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
I HATE co-parenting (That "H" word was chosen on purpose)
Last night D3 says "When we leave the house where will I live" "Will I have a bedroom?" "Why wont Mommy be with us?"
That was my night. I wasnt even aware she knew we were selling the house
So our child psych told me that I should follow "Maslows Hierarchy of needs"
Focus on stabilizing safety and security concerns and then re-assure love.
I dont know whats been said and by who. Was it her Mom or her Grandmom? Im concerned that she is being fed to much info too soon and she cant process- Everyone keeps saying "children are resilient" - at three, I dont buy it.
and PM- What is the most convenient way to get a BF test done? BMI felt better then just weight.......I feel like the goal posts have been moved.
I need to learn about BF
Maslow also posited that when basic needs are not meet, it is absolutely impossible to focus on the other needs in the hierarchy. The very basic are shelter and food. They go on from there, but the basics need to be provided. Past this, I don't necessarily believe that one level has to be achieved to reach the next. I find it interesting it is a pyramid, because you can pull certain blocks and still reach the pinnacle. Of course, it is stronger when all the building blocks are present
Last September I was almost at self-actualization. life was amazing- I knew that...to a point.
The bomb blew my pyramid up
Rebuild time, start from scratch ......this is part of the reason I'm trying to dig deep and learn what I want. Selfish, but necessary.
W was here to drop off d3. She didn't look to good. Dark circles under her eyes- who knows, couldbe up all night partying like a rock star and having great s all night.
I had d3 back
Visited my sick friend, got his groceries and we all had Chinese together. I LOVE real Chinese .
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
