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I know the feeling. In good times I am a night owl and have troublesleeping. With current sitch- forget it. My sleep schedule is way off.

Jusy venting here; I'm having a low day today; the time is almost here that H is moving out very soon I'm really scared to be on my own. I know H means well he told me this morning to go down to the family services and apply for assistants to help me out with grocery he said that i will qualify cause I don't make that much. I know that I still have a long way in my situation I know its going to be a tough road ahead of me but I'm not ready to be separated from my H.

Vent away K, especially if it helps you feel better.

My H moved out 3 weeks ago - definitely not something I wanted but we've got no choice. They're living in their own private world right now. Some days are good, others not so good. I was worried how my S13 would take it, but he's actually handling it better than I am.

Stay strong for yourself and for your kids.

I'm sorry to hear that your H had left your family too. I know I have a lot of work ahead of me I just hope that I can move on from all this pain. I need to get off the roller coaster of emotions one day im in a happy place to sad place then confused place and the scared place. I just want to be happy again and have my family back. I know at this time its not possible at all and it may never happen I just hope that one day H will come back to our family. Thank you for letting me vent again.

I'm sorry to hear you had a bad night's sleep, but with your sitch I'm surprised you get any sleep! You're doing really well, keep up the good work

" I know H means well he told me this morning to go down to the family services and apply for assistants to help me out with grocery"

Seriously? Your H isn't doing it because he cares about you or means well. He's doing it to alleviate his guilt. If he really meant well he wouldn't be texting the OW in front of you. Plus it sounds like he's trying to do it so that he doesn't have to give you any money.

Have you discussed the monetary issue with him? Time to get a L.

Mr bond is right. He asking you to go down to sort it out so he doesn't have to help you both financially or general help. I would go down though and get the assistance you need. That way you don't have to ask him for any help and you can get on with moving forward with or without him
I think though getting an L at this stage is a bit too emotional for her at the moment mr bond.
Once he moves out, you can do 180 on him without having to worry about money. As I said before he'll soon realise that the grass is not greener on the other side and he'll be the one who's miserable then! He'll get fed up of the OW once he spends more time with her and starts seeing the bad as well as the good things about her. She will start showing her true colours and start annoying him.
Hopefully when he does get fed up of her and is miserable then hopefully he will want to come back to you. There's no reason you can't have a bit of hope, it's what keeps me going at times Be the wife he wants to come back to, be stronger and more independent! You can do it! You've got friends that will help you get through this and don't be afraid of asking for help or be too proud.

I agree w/ Mr Bond. Telling you to go to social services just doesn't seem right....

I agree that he shouldn't have asked you to go, but I would anyway

Yes I have and I will have to see how well I'll do it next month when I take over the bills that I will be in charge of. If I can't make it next month then I'll go to family services. At this time I think that I will be able to but won't know till then.