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I'll see how I do next month when I take over the bills to see if I can do it with out going to family services.

Take whatever you are entitled to from family services - it is for your children, not for you.

Adinva is right - you do it for your children, not for yourself and not because he told you to.

Thank you I will keep that in mind I want to see if I can do it on my own first next month; then I'll go to family service I'll be cutting back on a lot of things next month.

Have you discussed any financials with him? What is he going to be responsible for paying? What about time with the kids? All those should be hashed out before he leaves and get them written out if possible. Be sure that YOU come up with a plan and not leave it in his hands. Or else you're going to see some serious cake eating and the only person whose needs aren't going to be fulfilled will be yours.

The only help I would need is for groceries my boys medical and dental will still be under H. So I don't have to worry about that. And I have my medical thru my work place so im covered. And since I work retail business should be picking up real soon it will be back to school in few weeks and then its xmas time right after that so I should start to get more hours at work that should help me a little more.

I don't know if it applies over where you are, but over here they make the H pay some money towards the upkeep of the children through family service or the benefits office as it's called over here.
I agree you should get what you can for the sake of your kids
Take care K and look after yourself and the kids Your H can look after himself, lol.

And the additional things for the kids? Clothes, food, school supplies, etc.

Is your H not planning to contribute to any of that?

Depends if K's H has got the money. Mine couldn't afford to do that and I'm used to being the one who buys my son things so what's the difference.
If your H can afford these things that Mr bond says, then I would think about asking him for some extra money for the kids

He is giving me support for our boys and I already got their school supplies. H is going to get them their school clothes and shoe's and he told me if they will need anything else he will help with what they need. But as of right now he is giving me half his lpaycheck per pay peiord he wanted to give me a little more but since he is moving out and into his own place he can't give more then what he is giving me. And my hours should be picking up more now since back to school is just around the corner and the Christmas season is just around the corner too I should be able to manage what I will have. But again I will have to see how it goes next month. If not my father said that he will help me if I need it. My father will be the last resort if I can't manage it. I will go to family services first.