Okay so at least this weekend's dates provided a bit more clarity for me and the field is being narrowed down a bit. I had my 3rd date with MG1 on Friday and honestly it felt like we had slipped backwards instead of moving forward. For me the date felt more awkward than even a first date. She texted me afterwards saying she had a nice and relaxed time with me, but I seriously felt like there was no chemistry. Based on our discussion it seems like she has a bit of an abrasive personality. She mentioned that she had been grumpy at work all week because they moved her from one office space to another and she was no longer near her hand-picked cubicle mate who is one of the few people who do not irritate her. She also managed to irritate our waitress with what I thought was a semi-rude attitude - a red flag for me. So based on those two things I don't think she necessarily plays well with others.
On Saturday I had a 3rd date with MG3 and it was the exact opposite. She is affectionate and openly (freely I should say) lets me know how attracted she is to me. I am attracted to her as well - I mean she is a really attractive woman. We had a really fun time. I think my only concern is if there is substance for me beyond the physical attraction. That will take more dates.
MG2 returned from her trip on Sunday but we probably won't have a chance to get together until sometime next week as I am going out of town late this week and her schedule is booked up early on.
She also managed to irritate our waitress with what I thought was a semi-rude attitude - a red flag for me. So based on those two things I don't think she necessarily plays well with others.
BA, you are very observant, and it is wise to take this evening into consideration. I was a waitress (okay, they don't have that gender specific moniker these days) way back when, and I learned that people show their true colors when people wait on them. For some reason, there are some people that love looking down on folks that serve them. I wouldn't want to continue on with someone who does that either.
Anyway, I kind of don't like MG#1's attitude. Plug on?
This is quick because I am crazy, crazy a$$ busy at work. Plus things are going haywire at home too - my landscaper can't start for a couple of weeks and my HOA is on my butt to address my crappy weeds (what part of a couple weeks can't they seem to appreciate?), so I've had to constantly pull weeds on top of trying to get work done. I feel like I'm playing whack-a-mole constantly.
Then my SUV (which D19 has been driving all summer) seemed to blow the water pump last night. It's been a good car and has almost 100K miles, so I'm getting it completely serviced today. But D19 works tonight and we have transportation issues, which I still need to figure out.
Oh well.
Had a really good weekend. Sweet Stuff and I went to church Saturday, out for drinks and an appetizer, and then on to see White House Down Saturday night. It was his first gig as the secret shopper. The theatre was very busy and packed, and we had a lot of stuff to log for his report. He actually has to track the trailers and their order, so I was the secretary who saved them to my phone. We had fun. Plus I really love Jamie Foxx and Channing Tatum. Who could object to that?
He's really nice to bartenders and wait staff, so he gets a thumbs up there. One thing he isn't is snobby or crabby.
He's coming over tonight to take a walk (weather willing - we are in a little monsoon weather pattern in late afternoon and early evening) and watch the Home Run Derby on ESPN. Have I said how much I really enjoy... no, love... watching baseball with a former player? He tells me all the technical stuff, and although he's a homer rooter for his Cubs, he is enough of a competitor to appreciate players around the league. I like that in an athlete. He's been starting to run again and is getting in good shape. I'm definitely going to follow suit here shortly. I just need to dump the issues that seem to crop up so I can prioritize that kind of thing. But getting a ride home tonight if my car isn't ready will have to be #1.
He said he'd like to start going to church again, and asked if I wouldn't mind if he joined me. That's pretty nice. He seemed to enjoy our pastor and his homily, and I'm glad - because I love our pastor too. SS seemed genuinely amused at how many blue haired friends I have, and how happy they were to see me and hug me. Since he's a fan favorite with the geriatric crowd himself, he had quite a laugh about that. It's true. Plus, I think he liked them more since all of them asked where D16 was. These folks truly love my special needs kiddo.
Anyhoo, back to stuff here. Hope ya'll have a great week! Carry on with your dating shenanigans.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Being mean to wait staff would be a deal breaker for me. Reminds me of my ex. Often people with low self esteem feel they can somehow make themselves look more important if they are rude to the people who are serving them. NOT OK ever! Nope. Nada. No grumpy people around me thanks!
Can you call them by name BA? I forget which one Romy is. I figured you'd start to get clarity here. It is easy when you have more than one to compare.
Betsey- things are good with S S. did I miss something? I thought he had left. But I, happy for you that he is there & you are enjoying his company
@Betsey - I agree with you, I'm not keen on her attitude either. Sorry about the "old school" terminology with waitress, hope I didn't offend anyone.
@ Barb - here are the names MG1 - Jan (not a successful showing on Friday) MG2 - Lucy (out of state until late last night) MG3 - Romy MG4 - Amanda who is long since gone.
I still like calling you BA. 'Cause you really are a Bad A$$!
Hell, no, you didn't offend me. I still think of them as waiters and waitresses. My D19 works at Maggiano's, which is how I know they are now called wait staff or servers. I've never been one to enforce political correctness that's not offensive. So none taken here.
I thought you had a potential MG#5 too? LOL, I'm starting to think you aren't crazy for posting so we can keep all of them straight. What a damn stud you are...
Betsey (it really IS my name in real life)
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
It's a deal breaker for me too. Heck, I'm nice to my garbage guy. He's a real person with real feelings and a family - just like me.
Barb, this thread apparently moves F-A-S-T! Yep, you missed my post about the update with Sweet Stuff the weekend after the 4th. I might have posted a week ago today? The end game is that his sons told him they want him to stay here so that they can see him - although they do know that their mom forbids them to contact him, they are more committed to using the car to come see their dad. His S19 is in the army and away, but his S17 & S16 pinky promised him they will do whatever is necessary to see him when they can. He said he's committed to them too. And he's working on getting the restraining order dropped to get back his dignity on that front.
And yes, I really do like him and have fun with him. I'm glad it worked out for now. He and Mr. Wonderful were officially introduced yesterday. My ex has had 2 conversations with me since, and a texting session too, and hasn't asked one question. LOL.
So that's the scoop here. We're in the beginning of one massive T-storm so I'll hit submit in case I lose power.
TTFN-
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Glad I didn't offend. I am a huge believer of treating everyone the same regardless of what they do or don't do in life. I felt very uncomfortable on Friday when Jan was short with the server. The thing is I don't even think she had a clue that she was rude. In hindsight I was wrong in not calling her on it. It's not an attitude I want to be around so I won't be going out with her again.
There was a MG5 (Cherie) however with 4 already in the works I just felt that was enough so I decided not to pursue her interest.
I think sooner rather than later that there will hopefully just be one, I just want to make sure it's the right one!
Bets, I'm wondering how you are handling Mr. Wonderful while dating Sweet Stuff? I mean, you DO have a R with both of them although they are of different levels. Ya know what I'm sayin'? Did you find it awkward to introduce SS to Mr. Wonderful?
That sounds nice and sordid LOL! No, it wasn't hard at all. In fact, it was something I was hoping I could do sooner or later. Why, you ask?
He had his GF for a little more than 2 years, and he never introduced her to me. His former GF also didn't introduce herself to me. So after a long period of time, after she showed up to D19's volleyball tournaments (her daughter also plays), I introduced myself. It just bugged me, you know? So I was kind of gleeful to make the introduction. It went great!
If you haven't figured out by now, I'm always the one who yells out, "the emporer is naked!"
Cheerio-
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey