Barb - I agree with you. I was actually being a bit sarcastic and playing off of the Bachelorette/Bachelor show theme.
Personally, I will have whittled down my selection to one woman long before sexual initimacy takes place. I feel somewhat guilty just dating more than one person and can't imagine sleeping with more than one.
Personally, I will have whittled down my selection to one woman long before sexual initimacy takes place. I feel somewhat guilty just dating more than one person and can't imagine sleeping with more than one.
BA
Hey, I thought this was all about pushing beyond your comfort zone...go all the way BA lol!
I never got back to anyone too quickly. I didn't want to seem Too available. Within a 24 hour period was fine. Being a little "busy" gives a bit of mystery to your life in the getting to know you stage.
I would say don't try to play mind games. When would you answer a text from a friend? Do you think that through so much? I guess I am just saying we are all adults, don't we have enough drama without that too?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
But truthfully - in the early days when you are trying to figure out the other person - I seriously think if you respond too quickly or text too often you could be perceived as desperate, clingy, stalkiish or that you don't have a life.
Not suggesting you play games if you respond in reasonable order but not immediately - I think that's better.
Plus, not every employer is as congenial as I am... most of my friends work in environments where personal calls and texting are prohibited. Sweet Stuff honors that too, as he owns his own business. The only texts I usually get during work are appointment reminders or quick questions/news from my D19. My XH can't even bring his cell phone into his building, so he calls me if he needs something.
Speaking of work, I need to get back to things. I'm hopping!
TTFN,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
That's just it. Not everyone has their cel attached to them at all times. It is perfectly reasonable to reply when itis convenient for you.
I think part of the question was around when to call after a date (I think within 48 hrs is good) or when to call to book a date - I think more than 48 hours is polite.
