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Thanks Snodderly. Yes, she will make me wait and work for it I am sure. She has been incredibly nasty with the emails and demands. She actually sent me an email demanding I reimburse the joint expense account $81.00 from a grocery store a few days ago. I was going nuts trying to figure it out. Then realized it was her. She actually bought groceries, filled her fridge and demanded I reimburse it. It was her! She's lost it pal. Very scary....and she's a banker. No wonder the debt load. I sent her as polite replies as possible letting her know she is mistaken and she drew the funds and she needs to replace it. No response and no reimbursement...except a bitter reply noting I pay for all dog costs. Weird. She is in money trouble. Now she wants to change the vacation dates on the new schedule and take an extra day from me with the kids. Yep, she is one angry, distressed person. I do feel sorry for her in some ways but gotta watch my back. She is bad mouthing me all over.

Well, have been in my own place for a month now. Lonely without my girls. They are away for a week with their mom. The I get them Friday for my D11 baseball tournament in another city and then not for 2 days then a week vacation with me to round out he summer. Access schedule starts September 3rd. Still a battle to round out finances and xW does not respond to closing out accounts etc. I can't shut them without her contribution to he debt. We are making offer to settle next week on financials. She will owe me about $10k from post separation expenses. I don't think she gets that and she expects a big payout to her. Numbers are numbers though and she can't fight it (well she can). I see her litigating again and losing again. Still don't know what I did to deserve the hate and vitriol. Maybe the nasty words after she cheated? All I can think of....I also could have called her worse. She is still spending but now it will be her debt, not mine. She will never be happy but puts on a good front of being so. A couple friends have told me they are seeing through the fake now.
I feel a little lonely tonight. Gotta get used to it. Just me and the dog.

I'm sorry you're lonely tonight FM and that you've been through quite a lot with the xw I hope you find something fun to do for yourself and that this will all get cleared up for you quickly.

take care

Thanks Whiterose...I appreciate it. Loneliness [censored] but I guess just not used to it. Always had a family and friends around growing up, then my family that was.
Read some of your sitch...lots of complications. My heart goes to you too but you will find excellent folks here that have some solid insight.

I guess this is one of those lonely, lonely nights to get used to, eh?

Pink Floyd says "Is there anybody out there."

What's up Pretty Boy Floyd?!

Well, life can be weird. Knowing that reconciliation will never happen with too much bitterness and litigation ongoing. She has really crashed with debt , unpaid bills, she is all over the place, completely irresponsible behaviour on all levels. Go to court in Dec again and we still don't have what we need for a settlement offer...she d
Still has not produced all disclosure. She gets a serums traffic offence, notice for collections of a debt for a utility etc etc.
I am trying to settle into new home and get my job going. Kids are pissed but trying to make the most of it....seems they are better sports than us.
I have been seeing this 30 year old about once a week and we speak daily. Told me today the age difference does not bother her and that I look great and she is very attracted to me after 5 months of seeing her. XW and I were at same parent meeting last week...she looked tired and stressed and not good at all. She still creates nastiness. We both have resentments. It will be a long time before I have any respect for her...just being honest here, she has destroyed any possibility of amicable relationship and co-parenting she clearly has trouble with. Still controlling on that front...always will I guess...it's what she knows.

Still trying to survive the nasties. Litigation is ugly. She just can't be nice. Her lawyer actually has demanded I show respect. Huh. Okay, if it is both ways, sure. Financial settlement hopefully weeks away. Claiming she has no money and wants more from me. Hess what? I have none to spare either. Is she realizing how expensive life is and taking it out on me? Too much said and done....cannot see even a friendship ever.

I'm in a similar spot Floyd. My stbx attorney bad mouthed the type of father and husband I am. If I could have 3 minutes with that dude in a room by ourselves...

My stbx has lied, continues to lie, and claims I'm hiding income and assetts. These WAS's are something else.

I too have a tough time seeing any type of friendship ever but 3 years ago I never could of imagined I'm at where I am now so who knows.

Try not to let her teenage temper tantrums bring you down. You know who you are, who you want to be, and your truth is what matters.