Over the past couple of weeks, H and I have been flirting and even sexting. We've been communicating frequently on a daily basis about everything--joking and having fun. A couple of things have happened, they may not be significant to some of you, but knowing H, I can not dismiss his effort/feelers:
1) H and OW broke up earlier this month. I did not react other than asking if he was okay. 2) H reminisced about our wedding song. This artist has a new album out and he texted me a screen shot of the album and song he was listening to. He said, "Just downloaded the new album and I thought of you. I know you would like it." The song, is a more positive version of our wedding song. 3) While H has been on the road, he has texted saying that he misses us and is thinking of me. 4) We call each other new pet names. 5) We buy each other gifts. 6) He is taking us on vacation in less than 2 weeks. I had to 180 and go with the flow. I don't adapt well to surprises. 6) Last night, I saw my husband and joked around about "hooking up" There is tons of physical chemistry between us still. He shut me down but I didn't let it get my spirits down. When we parted ways, he texted me that he had more to explain and that he feels guilty. I validated and said I was ready to listen whenever he wanted to talk. In summary, he says I'm not just some regular girl. I'm different. He doesn't want to rush into things or use me. There is definitely a spark again. He wants things to feel natural and he is open to whatever happens. Being that he is an artist, he has to go off of his feelings. He is excited about our trip and I can sense he is taking this opportunity to try to reconnect. I ended the conversation thanking him for his honesty and valuing me as a person (180). I suggested that we not over think things (180). There are no rules for "us" and we are far from ordinary because of his work. I am interested in discussing things but I'm more interested in the future and not rehashing our past hurts. Just move forward (180). He responded with, "That sounds perfect. =)" and proceed to compliment me and talk about how excited he was about our trip.
Whew!
Today, we had lunch as a family. It was fun and this is so exciting, reconnecting and getting to know each other again. We have both changed so much. I have to keep up my GALs, work on my 180s, and applaud his changes and improvement. I'm trying my best to be optimistic.
Me 33 / H 30 T 10 / M 9 S 3 / D Infant Bomb 11.22.12 / Moved 11.29.12
That sounds really positive, but just take it slow because if he just broke up with OW earlier this month then you may be his "rebound". He may also still be grieving the loss of that relationship. Don't push him too fast (thinking about your "hooking up" comment), let him drive the pace of things.
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We have both changed so much.
I'm sure you've changed a lot, but he probably hasn't changed as much as you think. Often when piecing happens, the LBS is disappointed when they discover the WAS has not grown at all while the two were apart. Just be ready for him to have a lot of the same old baggage.
