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Ha ha ha UW, I laughed out loud with the "say it with me now..."

I picture you in your official DB cheerleader uniform (not sure what colors - are you a Jets or Giants fan, don't be offended by me asking lol!) with some pom poms, doing a little cheer -"2, 4, 6, 8 Getting A Life is really great!" Then, using a huge freakin megaphone, yell, " AND STOP GETTING AHEAD OF YOURSELF!!!!!!"

I'm working on it. Sort of

It is interesting to think that he realizes that I know on some level. Yet, I haven't kicked him out. I've been kind to him and understanding, giving him all the space and freedom he wants. As you always say, it matters.

Oh, I have no doubt we will cross paths in person. I think it's inevitable, actually. Exciting to think about

Linda, I've had the displeasure of seeing FT in a bathing suit (she has a really nice in ground swimming pool at her house - which she had put in because she HAD to have it) and let me tell you, it's not a pretty sight! She's the kind of woman that will be very insecure being on the beach, with plenty of young, bikini clad twenty-somethings bouncing around. She'll be watching H like a hawk to see if he's checking anyone out.

Sounds fun, doesn't it!

I forgot to mention that when H and I talked yesterday, I asked him how he slept. He said not well - itchy and very restless.

Guess that fresh ocean air (and FT) isn't helping him sleep!

Just about nap time here, for everyone, including me!

Hey TVS

Just was thinking about you - thought I'd stop by to say howdy.



~ Peace to you ~

H seems very interested if I inject somethings about me, but he won't ask anything. Interesting that your H is like that too. So often I'm thinking, you remember you don't want to be with me, right?

I think T if he "wanted" her out of this hidden affair, he would have her. He would be gone. Too many of these MLCers leave for the OW and have that relationship, but like uR's H, they don't even want it. Your H is not even doing that.

That's what I think with my H too, and before he moved back and I was heading towards the lawyer, I even said, "why did you not just divorce me before getting involved with her?" He wouldn't answer, but it was so clear: because he doesn't want her. He doesn't want an actual relationship with her. She is the band aid, and apparently she does a pretty crappy job at that. Kind of like what I've heard said about big gals--guys will sleep with them, but they won't be seen in public with them. My H, though he is insecure right now, definitely puts on the front that he is the best thing since sliced bread. He is not going to be okay with people thinking he is in a relationship with any of these women.

I'm glad to hear your husband had a restless night

Tvs, thinking of you, Saturday night and all.

Did your H call today?

I am a lot better than I was last evening. My H called today and also sent several pics and texts. One was of him with a mask on. I was very upbeat with everything with him. And I am having a great time with S13.

Are the cousins and SIL still there for tonight too? Maybe the tiger sharks can prowl earlier in the night! Lol!


rH

Thanks for stopping by Miz J, Raine and rH - you ladies rock!

Channeling my inner rH with a big glass of wine tonight...

So today I discover S5's pet, our hermit crab, is dead. I know I'm gonna have to break the news to him.

I sit him down to tell him, and he bursts into tears. It was his first pet, he got it last year for his birthday when he turned four.

We bury the crab in the backyard. I say a few nice words about him (hard to say much, it's a stinking crab!), and ask S5 if he would like to say anything about his crab.

He looks down at him and says "I love you", and bursts into tears again.

It took everything in me not to cry.

We went out an hour later and got another crab.

As we're doing all this in the backyard, H calls and leaves a message on my cell phone. He sounded perky and happy. Said he wanted to see how the boys and I were doing, wanted to see how the sleepover went.

I texted him back after dinner and told him what happened. He sent me a short text back. Did not hear from him after that.

My parents watched boys so I could go to the grocery store by myself this evening. So much easier by myself!!!

Feeling blah this evening. Am feeling really tired too, don't know how single parents do it. Even though H was mentally checked out for a long time, at least he was physically here and could help out or watch kids if needed.

Figured I deserved a glass of wine tonight. It's been a long day.

Had a mini crying spell tonight. Sat down on S5's bed as I was filling up the water for his bath, and started crying. Not sure quite why. Didn't last long.

Don't think I could do a sleepover two nights in a row lol!

Tomorrow's a new day, onward and upward

oh TVS, what a day for you. Dead pet crabs, broken sleep from the boys' sleepover, H not calling S5 after being informed about his dead pet ,on top of the fact that he's away with that frumpy twat. No wonder you had a little cry. I hope it made you feel a little better.  I had a little jag myself yesterday, cept I was at work at the time. Embarassing. 

It's 5 am, I bet your H is miserable, scratching, tossing and turning, and wishing he had his loving TVS there to apply some lotion! 

Have a great day. Just 2 more days after today right? You CAN do this!

Thanks rH and Linda

rH, you are right - I didn't want to cry because the flood gates would have definitely have opened, and my sobbing would have been about a lot more then a hermit crab lol! Just didn't want to go down that road.

I do seem to cry less and less. When it bubbles up, sometimes it even surprises me, like where did that come from?!?! But after all the crying I did in the months post- bomb, I think for me, crying less now is good. I cry when I need it.

I think H did feel bad about not being here to comfort S5. And feeling bad can = avoidance and running. Doesn't change what I do here and how I take care of things.

Thanks for checking in on me, it means a lot Hope you are having a happy morning.

Thanks for checking in on me too Linda, you are sweet. Don't feel bad about getting sad at work - happens to the best of us!

Is it wrong to hope that my H is miserable, at least for part of each day?

I'm sure his itchiness did not magically disappear. Just like FT's gut lol! Okay, so maybe that was a wee bit spiteful

Hope you have a better day too. WE can do this

Hi TVS,

Oh man, it is so tough when their pets die...

I am glad your parents could help out a bit, that is a gift.

Sleepovers get "worse" when they get to be teens...just a warning...they don't need night vision anymore because they just don't sleep...and the night time calls to them, beckoning.....

Hang in there TVS, I pray this trip, if FT was involved, shows H some reality...

T^2

So, so, so true!
*sigh*