Well - nothing to report - no contact w/ c since the Wed night possum call. But, the Ball is in her court for now - I made it very clear what I wanted at Dinner Wednesday night.
about a month ago C and I went to see her anut and uncle both in upper 80s. Aunt was recovering from a broken back. We had good visit and as we left Uncle walked us to the door and we were talking about aunt. as we left he looked at us and said "God, I love that woman." Later I told C how wonderful I thought that was. Well Wed night I told her again that his statement was beautiful and that one day I wanted to be able to say that to someone about C.
Ogda~ I have the same thoughts. I want to have a deep love even as old guffers! I see a really elderly couple holding hands and it just breaks my heart!
Your handling this tough time very well. I admire your strength.
Good for you...you are basically asking for what you want here..just be ready to respect her answer and willing to attack from a different angle to get what you want if need be!
Dear OGDA, I am working tomorrow and will check in with you more fully then. Take care for tonight,
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Quote: I have the same thoughts. I want to have a deep love even as old guffers! I see a really elderly couple holding hands and it just breaks my heart!
Me too! Because I thought I would be one of those "old guffers"!
I think what we learn DBing will help us to be those old f@rt$! LOL I have learned to be more patient, understanding and forgiving! Maybe this will help when our S's come back home!
Well - still no contact - what a way to spend v-day - at least I sent her a card. narie a peep from her. I guess that shows the difference between me and my ex.
She is likely out with him having a great time - while I am sitting in my office on a Saturday night.
No ASSuming please... give her time and space... you have built a strong foundation, you have been there for her, she has a lot to sort through. You have all of us here to talk to, to encourage you, to keep you moving in the right direction. Who does she have? Give her time to figure this out. Take care of YOU.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Don't take this V day silence personally - it (V day) just happened at a time when things are difficult for your W as well as you, don't take her lack of response as a personal rejection. Next V day you may well be at a very different, happier place!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
