I had an 85 year old stalker from church last fall. Everyone laughs and thinks it's really funny, but it really impacted and bothered me. I came very close to getting a restraining order when he stopped acting like a lunatic. What was even worse is that I know him from church. It's been okay since I got very specific with him before the holidays. So know I'm not one who laughs at the age of the stalker.
Johnny is the featured profile for this month's AARP magazine, which I got yesterday. He turns 50 this month. But no, I don't know him or know of any way to meet him. Sorry about that! Heck, if I did, I think it would be my secret anyway!
He's one of those guys (along with Robert Downey, Jr.) who were cute as younger guys but just got better looking, edgier and more intriguing with age. I have a massive crush on Robert... and must also note that I have a girl crush on Gwyneth. You might accurately guess that I love the Iron Man movies.
Things are moving along here with Mr. Sweet Stuff. He's been really busy looking for a night job to replace the one he had with UPS as a contractor. Plus I've been busy at work, and not with fun stuff either. I seem to have a perpetual Murphy who likes to dog my successes here. It's getting annoying. We did have a date on Saturday, and that was fun. He's sweet.
I'm still no closer to figuring out if this is just a summer thing or more. I'll play it by ear and let time take care of itself. I still find myself more than a little bit allergic to the idea of wanting more. I've been mulling that over for a week now, and really think that I enjoy my space more than I enjoy being involved with someone. It's actually as simple as that. I'm not sure how to interpret that or even IF I should interpret that. The one thing I've figured out in 51 years on this planet is that the heart wants what it wants. And my heart is telling me that it wants space and time.
Oh well.
Alrighty then. It's time for me to get crack-a-lackin' here again. I've got 3 big projects that just kicked off yesterday and need to move them along.
Hope everyone has a good day-
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Well I got an email from a woman on "ourtime" this morning that I think is just plain odd and I quote:
"Hi, I'm currently dating someone, but if it doesn't work out is it okay if I contact you?"
My initial thought was huh - that would be great so that I can wonder that while you're dating me if you are emailing other guys the same message. Maybe I am being too sensitive. My second thought was maybe she just started dating someone and she is just keeping her options open. Either way I think I'm going to pass. Any other thoughts/comments?
Personally, if she's seeing someone she should hide her profile. I did when I started seeing Mr. Sweet Stuff. I just don't want to answer men when I'm honestly shutting it down for the time being.
I don't know how I'd answer her back. I'd probably just be honest and say "No thanks. I'm not in the backup plan mode." But that's me.
Good luck!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Good advice Barb - I definitely ran from that one. Having been back on the sites for about a week, I've forgotten how depressing it can be. If I get one more wink or email from a 20 something year old scammer I think I'm going to puke.
BA, it's hard work and emotionally draining sometimes. People can be real jerks! Online dating would be so much fun if it didn't involve other people lol.
Btw, Whatis baited and tossed his hook into the POF pond the other night and the targeted fishy bit in less than 30 minutes, not bad for a guy who's fishing license was revoked a year and a half ago. It went well and I felt good about it...and the next day she pulled her profile and I haven't heard from her since. That's the weird and wacky world of online dating! Beforehand I wasn't sure I was ready but I figure I'll never really feel ready! This lady seemed like such and amazing match and her profile was well thought out and presented...and it made me smile. She's interested in neuroplasticity, has an "extensive book collection", is in a church small group Friday evenings...and it goes on and on. I decided to go for it. It's funny 'cuz I'm on OKCupid too, I'm inactive there but...I got an email from OKCupid informing me that this lady (same one)was checking me out and she was an "exceptional match" for me. That's the only message like that I've ever got from OKCupid lol. Anyway, these ladies pull their profiles all the time so who really knows what inspired her to do it. What I do know is that I reached out and am pleased with how it went...up until the profile pulling part that is lol. So, I'm in no rush to meet anyone. I'll just bait my hook when I feel I want to and go from there...and if I don't want to, I won't!
Wii - you just have to remember, it probably has nothing to do with you. Her ex-husband came back into town, or she realized she's not ready to date with, or she hit it off with the guy she had a date with last night - whatever.
Betsey