Before you answer yes to her, are you willing to tape your mouth?
The ONLY way you should entertain meeting with her to talk would be in order to listen, possibly validate, and then tell her that you will think about what she said and that you have to go do [ insert something that you plan to do that is valid in order to remove yourself from an awkward situation where you think you should speak, when really you shouldn't ].
Be completely honest with yourself on whether you can NOT say anything, just listen. Can you do that?
Tape my mouth and listen and vadilate what she says. I will speak nothing about the mediation. I respond to her request with a simple message. " hi w ( her name) my phone is still the same ###-###-####"
please don't expect her to "hollywood movie" this ending. She might just want to "coach" you on how to conduct yourself at mediation or try to drill you for info.
Unfortunately, that's often the case. One of the reasons why we say "Believe none of what they say and only 50% of what they do."
That phrase tends to have more accuracy with MLC than WAS, it still is something for LBS to keep in mind.
A meeting to talk, upcoming D process, working on the M, leaving the house, coming back... we can be told any number of things and those things don't necessarily happen.
Keep your hopes low and your expectations even lower and keep working on detaching your emotions from her words or actions.
These sitchs can turn around certainly, we just have to keep working on ourselves because that's all we can control.
Kaffe thank you for your support. I had good session with my therapist this evening. I realize all my anxious moments only come out when I deal with my w. I had a very pleasant week until she crushed it with her falsified tales.
