I will weigh in on this topic...... I want someone to ask me out who isn't married. Two different guys in a 10 day period asked me out, and lied (Gasp!) about their marital state.
I went to the beach with the one guy, and as we talked he started spinning his story. Wow, he is in a loveless marriage, his wife is just his roommate, he is going to divorce her as soon as he sells his art collection on eBay, he has his freedom, he only married her because it made their insurance cheaper.....
I told him that in no way did his story help his cause with me. I even told him it hurt me to hare him say those things, because it made me wonder was that what my X told OW.
So on to fool #2. He asks me to meet him at a park after work to talk. Oh yes, he got divorced, but remarried the same woman, and now she won't divorce him again. He also claims to have his freedom. And a few other special powers.
I had two other dates with nice normal, not married and lying about it guys, too. So I guess I'm not hopeless at dating. Just maybe not good at it. I don't think either of the two guys are going to be anything more than friends.
I will continue to read the adventures of my fellow travelers on this long road. I enjoy keeping up with you all!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Well after about 2 months post-dumping I decided to create a profile on the OurTime website - I figured maybe with a new website I will have a better result! I even actually sent an email out already to a woman who seems to have the types of qualities I am looking for. Wish me luck! Next up those dreaded first dates that feel more like an interview process!
I'm absolutely slammed at work today, but will try to write tonight or tomorrow morning.
Wentiki & Gineen - I've had the married guys ask me out too. One gave me a sob story about how his W has been sick with Alzheimers for some time and he's lonely, etc. While I'm compassionate about his situation, it is NOT okay to solicit sex while still married. Funny, I guess we all have the same expectation of until death do us part? Hold out for better.
BA, good luck!
Betsey
p.s. Gineen, that Creeper feature is horrifying! That is AWFUL!
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
OK, I feel like the Santa who puts coal in your stocking...but I'm gonna say it and hope it doesn't come across that way! Initially, love is intoxicatingly beautiful for both parties, as it should be but so far I've only heard what he does for you. What do you do for him? It's possible I've missed something but he seems to be doing whatever you want each weekend and all the things that will impress you. Being a "nice guy" myself I know how easy it can be to do that especially if someone is glowingly appreciative. You feel good 'cuz you're making the other person happy and that feels good, but is he looking after his own needs? Trust me, his needs aren't just to look after your needs and make you happy! Been there, done that...and maybe I'm just ultra-sensitive to that right these days. Kml, is he able to put forward what he wants or maybe say he'd rather not do something you want? Nice guys do have drawbacks they just aren't that obvious initially. Just food for thought.
I even actually sent an email out already to a woman who seems to have the types of qualities I am looking for. Wish me luck! Next up those dreaded first dates that feel more like an interview process! 
Betsey