My last message to her was last friday when she asked for credit statments, tax returns and her student loan info so she can be better prepared for our mediation. Our mediator asked her to respond with which cards and dates she want. I waited a week she did not specify So I sent her everything i could get over 70 pages of credit statments in pdf form. I suggested she get tax return and her student loans online. Or she could contact our account for tax returns.
My message to her, Tax returns going back to 2008 and your student loans are available online . The account should have electronic copies of anything early than that. Did you ask him? I also send the credit card statements I was able to get, if you want any other dates there may be a $5 charge per statement. To me it just seems like everything I do is wrong. Even if it is what she asks for. I was not going to scan 100 pages of tax returns did she really think I would do that? Even the mediator told me that that was alittle much to ask.
My mind is too but that is it " you're a psycho, I want you to know I am selling my rings" Do I even respond to that? Maybe she sent it by mistake. That only means that is what she is thinking.
is there any possibility that you were out and about the past week or so and did something you can't remember?
Honestly, I don't go back and read my threads and I want to believe that my stbx was never quite off the wall, like that.
I can tell you that I'm thinking how I would feel if my stbx HAD said something like that, and it brings up the same feelings that I remember, while I was going through the "worst" of it and not appropriately detached.
That feeling of "am I...? really...? is it possible? was I really such a bad guy...? I feel horrible that she feels that way..." kind of stuff.
There's that surreal... cognitive dissonance that follows those type of... "encounters"...
Yeah, I'd strongly recommend not responding in any way to that. At best, she's baiting you... at worst... well, I think you want to steer WAAAAYYY clear of her, at this time.
You COULD be nutz... what do I know? I've never met you...
Work on yourself and get to a place where you understand that you ARE (most likely) a great guy who can have a great future, no matter how it looks.
ok, just want to say a couple things extra, here...
First... I am sitting here all deer in the headlight for you... and I am having memories of my W saying things like she's lost her passion, that she stopped trusting me... and then planning a weekend outing with the kids and when I tell her I'll meet up with them as soon as I can, saying that if I go, she will not... to telling the kids to not tell what she (they) are doing or where they are going or who they are visiting... and saying that she doesn't want to D or separate and that I don't have to leave but she doesn't want to be with me... and hiding the "only friends" OMs... and then, when I would talk to her (ok, beg, cry, etc) about working on things and R, she'd complain that I was saying "hurtful" things to her...
ok, that was rambling...
Anyhow, what I'm trying to say is, it might be worth while for you to close this topic and start a new one in MLC. Even if your W IS NOT MLC, there's something going on that I think you'll get good support in that forum.
This forum is actually for people who ARE WASs (as opposed to talking about them) anyhow, although that doesn't really matter. Except that... well, there's something not quite WAS about your W, from how I'm seeing it...
The your quesrion did I do anything I do not remember, I can say yes to the my drink to oblivion as stop, which is a gaint positive for me. I will not respond, I know myself it is not true. Yesterday I got a boost of confidence, was working at a temp job and was o ffered another job the receptionist like me and she saw that I am easy to get along with. I can truely say that about myself I do not try to be someelse I am who I am authentic...
