its not my place to judge others drinking habits. i do know if they drink like me it is probably a really bad idea. people change as i am, but right now i dont want to get tangled up with a practicing alcoholic. not good for my program. i am pretty good at noticing certain characteristics tho. generally alcoholic people come with a whole lot of drama also. as for online dating, if a woman lists her interests as bar hopping, partying, drinking or says that they like getting f--ked up i dont contact them. its fine if you enjoy going out. i do too. i just think life holds alot more interesting things to do that can be spoken of. idk
Gineen-
i checked out jersey pof.. holy sh1t..lol it was like 18 pages of people online now in my age group. you have a way bigger ocean to fish in..lol dont get discouraged.
I think, especially for you right now Clay, it's best to err on the side of caution. But it's also great that you are finding women who actually sound supportive of what you're doing. That's really important. The fact that you can be open about it is pretty amazing too. Hang in there, your day will come!
My new guy came with me to a band practice this weekend. Afterwards he came with us to the pizza place where we usually hang out after practice. Highlight of the evening? My tall handsome new guy telling my bandmates that I was the "best woman he'd ever been with".
Oh - and in the grocery checkout line with New Guy, there was an exercise magazine with some model's hiney on the front and a headline proclaiming how to get the perfect butt. New Guy picks it up, goes into a monologue about how her butt was NOT great and mine was far superior
Ellie - Good for you! I wouldn't have taken that comment sexually, BTW. What a really nice thing to say! I'd be pretty happy to be on the receiving end of that introduction.
Wii - Nope, I didn't elope over the weekend LOL. That's one thing you can count on me not doing! I had D16 this weekend, and she was a real pain in the a$$. Her last day of school was Friday, and I think she was trying to let me know that she's starting her summer being the boss of herself. That ain't gonna fly. She started summer camp today, thank goodness.
Clay and Wii, any woman who won't go out with you as you maintain your hard-earned sobriety can pound sand. You're better off without them. I drink socially, but would never hold it against someone who made sobriety their #1 goal in life. Ugh.
Gineen, you are a swell blind date. I mean that. How incredibly nice for you to notice the attraction felt by those 2 and generously offer to step aside. Not everyone is as big a person as you are, and I'm really proud for you.
Awww, I read what you said about wanting more kids, and for some reason, I'm still hopefully optimistic for you. You really sound like an absolute gem. Just give these guys a little more time. I believe!
I had my date with Mr. Sweet Stuff last night - we went out to dinner. It was at a casual place kind of near my house, with a fabulous view of the mountains and the reservoir at the state park. He was funny and thoughtful and made me laugh. I was home by 9:30 and no hanky panky. I have to say that I'm a little in awe of a guy who goes to college on a baseball scholarship. He was a left handed pitcher who can apparently hit. Yummy!
He texted me late last night and told me that he's feeling it for me and that he might want more of my time shortly. I'm okay with that, and told him we would figure it out as we go, particularly since it's him with the 2nd job and not me. He also removed his profile from ourtime this morning.
So all is well in my world. Now if I can just get my work life to cooperate with my personal life, I'd be set.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Oh, Wonka, how the heck are you, doll? Yes, you're absolutely right. I can't even picture Santa pitching from the stretch...
Gineen, coming back to you for a sec. Just something to consider. You mentioned not wanting to have children after 35. While I know that makes sense biologically, particularly if you made that resolution when you were in your 20s and still married, I'd just like to caution you in ruling that out because you're just about 33. I was a few weeks shy of 35 when D16 was born and don't regret that. My cousin's wife didn't have her first child until she was 39 (#2 was born almost 3 years later). They got married when she was 37, and she's older than my cuz. Their kids are beautiful and healthy too! Sometimes you just have to open yourself up and say that you will be blessed whenever that next one comes along.
So put on your spring training hat, and we'll get you practicing. Practice, drill and rehearse. The next guy is going to be yours!
Oh, and here's one for the books. Mr. Sweet Stuff told me last night he has a 60 year old friend, whose wife of 30 years passed away 3 years ago. Apparently, he never got the memo to wade carefully back into the dating pool. I guess his late wife had been sick, and he decided to jump in the deep end. He's apparently living the life of a frat boy, and just got some woman pregnant, and since his kids are grown, is trying to dodge child support. He got an STD with another woman on the heels of knocking the other one up. UGH! Their circle of friends is trying to get him to reapproach life with more logic and compassion and good old common sense. He said it's been really difficult to watch him go off the deep end. I guess it's not just divorced folks that have the craziness?
Hugs!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey
